Last weekend, I found myself in a position I never imagined I would be in—I pleaded with my fourteen-year-old son, Jake, to invite some friends over. After years of hosting rambunctious gatherings that nearly turned our living room into a battleground, where boys with endless energy would knock over lamps and even attempt to escape through windows, I thought I had seen the last of those chaotic days.
However, as Jake’s social life dwindled and my husband and I noticed him spending entire weekends in his room, dressed in pajamas, yelling at the TV, I realized it was time to step in.
Me: “Hey Jake, how about inviting some friends over for your birthday? We could order pizzas and watch a movie.”
Jake: “No thanks.”
Me: “Why not?”
Jake: “Just… no.”
Ah, the classic teenage conversation. We tried repeatedly to explain that “face time” means actually interacting with people, not just their digital avatars. We even argued that exploring the great outdoors and creating real-life memories is a wonderful use of imagination. And let’s be real—the graphics out there are way better!
But nope, Jake wasn’t interested. I mean, if I were a kid today, wouldn’t it be incredible to connect with friends 24/7 from my bedroom? I had to make do with long phone cords tethered to my mom’s bedroom.
I admit, I’ve had my moments of hypocrisy. One Friday night, I was in my own room, drink in hand, chatting away with fellow bloggers via video call when Jake and his little brother peeked in, utterly baffled.
Jake: “Mom, what are you doing?”
Me: “I’m video chatting! Come check it out!”
Jake: “Seriously? Get a life, Mom.”
Me: “Excuse me? What social plans do you have, Mr. Smarty?”
That evening, in my pajamas, I traveled through virtual downtown Singapore, shared laughs at a Ruby Tuesdays in Minnesota, received a house tour from a friend in Texas, and chatted with folks from England to Hawaii, cocktails included. Suddenly, Jake kept sneaking in to peek at my laptop, and within ten minutes, both boys were beside me, introducing themselves to my online friends. It was a breakthrough!
I’ve got to admit, getting dressed and leaving the house to socialize is a challenge for me, but I manage (sometimes). Then, this weekend, Jake announced he was going to a friend’s house to collaborate on a school project. With actual kids! Five of them!
Jake: “I might not be back for dinner.”
Me: “Great! Go have fun!”
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In summary, while our kids may be glued to their screens, it’s crucial to encourage real-life connections. After all, the world outside has so much to offer, and sometimes a gentle nudge is all they need to step out of their virtual comfort zones.