“Life can be tough sometimes, right?” my friend Carla texted me last week.
“Absolutely,” I replied, feeling the weight of our shared experiences. We had been trying to coordinate a meetup for next weekend, but the reality of kids’ activities, travel plans, and everyday responsibilities kept getting in the way. I miss her presence, and it’s clear she feels the same. Life can be a challenge.
This morning began with chaos: a dripping bathroom sink, a shower door that had come loose, one dog having an unfortunate accident on my son’s piano book, and the other dog creating a mess throughout our home. The morning rush was frantic, filled with hurried goodbyes and a tight school drop-off. I found myself teetering on the edge of tears for reasons that eluded me. Some days are simply harder than others.
“Parenting is overwhelming,” another friend chimed in this afternoon. “I feel like I’ve leaped off a parenting cliff without any plan in sight.”
“I can relate to that most days,” I replied.
The questions we face as parents can feel unending: Are they getting enough rest? Are we reading enough together? When is it too late for a favorite blanket or thumb-sucking? Should I allow my child to try football? Are they enrolled in too many activities, or not enough? With every new phase, I feel like I’m plunging off a cliff, unsure of what lies below, often doubting my abilities to navigate it all. Parenting is quite the challenge at times.
Navigating friendships, relationships, work, and life itself can also be tough. Sometimes, everything just feels overwhelming.
By stating that life can be hard, I realize I’m wading into murky waters. It’s not always easy to admit. We prefer to talk about difficulties after we’ve emerged from them, reflecting on past struggles with a sense of relief. We share stories of the challenges faced when we’ve finally found our footing.
But what about when we’re in the thick of it? What about those moments when we feel crushed under the weight of our responsibilities, still lost, still floundering through the dark? Where are the stories of “I’m with you” during those times?
I find that in tough moments, I often tell myself the biggest lie: “You’re alone in this. No one else could possibly understand.”
Many of life’s most meaningful aspects are filled with challenges. Parenting can be incredibly demanding, and nurturing a marriage can become tricky, especially when raising young children. Maintaining friendships can be inconvenient, especially when distance separates us. Simply being an adult comes with its own set of trials.
The beauty of life—parenting, friendships, and relationships—often coexists with a less glamorous reality. Acknowledging the tough parts doesn’t diminish their value or significance. Embracing that life can be hard doesn’t take away from its beauty.
Even on the rough days, I recognize how precious life truly is. Each day, I thank the universe for my children, even when parenting feels like navigating a minefield. I’m grateful for my partner and my friends, even when life gets busy and the ways we express our love sometimes get lost in translation.
Tonight, Carla and I were texting again about meeting up. With about 1,000 miles between us and our hectic schedules, finding time is a challenge we both acknowledge. We agreed that yes, life can be very hard sometimes, and we don’t always want to admit it while we’re in it. We even chatted about planning a girls’ weekend soon.
“Noodle salad!” I texted, referencing a scene from As Good as It Gets, where Jack Nicholson’s character reflects on how some people have beautiful stories filled with lakes, boats, and noodle salad—just not the ones stuck in a car. It brought back memories of good times spent at my grandparents’ lake house, surrounded by friends and laughter.
The truth is that life can be tough. Some days are hard, while others are filled with sunshine and joy. Most days, it’s a mix of both. Perhaps the key lies in creating joyful moments even when we feel as if we’re stepping off a cliff. Maybe it’s about enjoying the noodle salad—even if it’s a bit soggy and the kids are protesting for pizza. And by “noodle salad,” I mean treating myself to cookie dough while sipping wine and messaging a friend about the challenges we face.
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In summary, life is a tapestry of highs and lows. Acknowledging the tough parts of parenting and relationships doesn’t take away from their beauty; it enriches our experiences and helps us connect with others going through similar struggles.