A few months ago, I penned an article about the comments to avoid when speaking to mothers of boys. I aimed for humor, insight, and a dash of sass, convinced I was sparing others from the familiar cringe of foot-in-mouth moments. I thought, someone needs to set the record straight, right? The post was meant to be as enlightening as an NBC “the more you know” segment.
To craft this list, I relied heavily on my own experiences. I vented, grumbled, and dissected every mildly annoying remark I’d ever encountered until they morphed into a tangible bitterness. Once I depleted my personal reservoir of grievances, I turned to friends for theirs, believing I was onto something significant, ready to unleash the next viral sensation.
But in doing so, I made myself rather miserable. I spent days from my metaphorical high horse, dwelling on inconsiderate and downright foolish remarks aimed at parents, especially those of boys. I realized I had been seeking out annoying comments where there might have just been innocent mistakes.
Lists detailing what not to say seem to be everywhere. They cover a wide range of topics: what non-parents shouldn’t say to parents, what parents should avoid saying to each other, and so on. It’s no surprise these lists have gained traction; they’re entertaining, relatable, and resonate with everyone. After all, who hasn’t experienced an awkward or insensitive comment? I know I’ve had my fair share of blunders, and I’ve surely made comments that could be deemed foolish. Yet, the intent behind those remarks was rarely malicious.
While there are instances where such lists can promote awareness, I worry that they have led to a culture of hyper-sensitivity. It seems we are now quick to assume hostility where there might only be ignorance or a poorly-timed attempt at conversation. We’ve become so focused on avoiding offense that we sometimes overlook the good intentions behind words.
At some point, it’s crucial to relax. We should strive to give one another the benefit of the doubt. Perhaps someone simply hasn’t come across the countless lists outlining sensitive subjects. As parents, we are inundated with information from blogs and media. This influx can foster understanding and support, but it can also amplify insecurities and facilitate public shaming, even if unintentionally.
I find myself questioning my parenting skills daily. It’s a tough job filled with challenges, and I’ve certainly faced my share of unsolicited and misguided advice. I fully support open conversations about the realities of parenting, yet I wonder if we’ve conditioned ourselves to frame everything as an adversarial issue. Have we become so accustomed to competitive parenting that we view each other as rivals instead of allies?
Let’s remember, we’re all trying our best with the resources we have. Yes, there are genuinely rude people out there, but fundamentally, I believe most individuals are kind-hearted, despite occasional mishaps in communication.
Maybe it’s time we ease up on the scrutiny, assume positive intentions, and move forward. Not every comment is meant as a personal attack, and perhaps we could conserve our energy for addressing genuine injustices. Instead of focusing on what shouldn’t be said, we might benefit from emphasizing supportive phrases like “You’re doing great!” or “How can I assist you?”
So, what was on my list of things not to say? You’ll have to look elsewhere for that. I’m not writing it today.
However, I can’t promise I won’t chuckle at the next “what not to say” headline that pops up on my feed because, let’s be honest, those lists can be downright hilarious.
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In summary, while I appreciate the humor and relatability of lists outlining what not to say, I’ve decided to focus on positivity and understanding. Perhaps we should all aim to support each other rather than criticize, fostering a more inclusive and compassionate parenting community.