I remember my child’s curiosity when they mentioned “pot brownies.” I couldn’t help but jump in, thinking, “You mean those brownies with marijuana?” When they shrugged and asked, “What’s the difference?” I knew it was time for a serious chat about drugs.
Honestly, I wasn’t even sure if crack brownies existed (do they?), but I started with, “If someone offers you a crack brownie, you say no. If someone offers you a pot brownie, you say…” And that’s where I paused. Just a few words in, and I found myself unsure of how to approach the subject of marijuana with my kids. The legalization of recreational marijuana in several states has certainly made things more complex. As parenting expert Karen Mitchell pointed out, many kids think, “It’s legal, so it must be fine.”
Here’s the reality: marijuana use is still illegal for minors. Explaining why it’s permissible for adults in specific areas but not for them can be challenging. According to Dr. Sarah Collins, a clinical psychologist, it’s crucial to address this topic openly and without judgment. Here’s how to initiate that discussion:
Find the Right Moment
Dr. Collins suggests that parents can start discussing marijuana around age 10. However, if your child brings it up earlier—perhaps after seeing someone smoking on a show—don’t hesitate to engage in the conversation. Begin by asking questions like, “What do you know about marijuana?” or “What are your thoughts on its legalization?” Avoid formal settings like family meetings that might make your kids clam up.
Set Clear Boundaries
Kids flourish in environments with well-defined limits. Dr. Collins emphasizes that while rigid punishments won’t deter them from trying marijuana, establishing clear expectations is essential. Let your child know you’re open to discussions about their concerns, making them more likely to seek your guidance.
Move Away from Scare Tactics
Remember those “This is Your Brain on Drugs” commercials? While they aimed to illustrate the dangers of drug use, Dr. John Harris from the Colorado Department of Public Health points out that this approach may alienate teens. Instead, focus on relatable topics that resonate with them—like their aspirations for graduation or getting their driver’s license. Explain how marijuana could hinder their chances of success in these areas, especially since it can impair their ability to study or drive.
Be Honest About Your Experiences
You don’t need to share every detail about your past with marijuana, but if your child asks, be truthful. If you’ve tried it, you can say, “I have tried it before, and here’s what I learned from that experience.” If you still use it responsibly, consider saying, “As an adult, I use it in moderation.”
Reinforce Your Support
Finally, it’s vital for your child to know they can turn to you in times of need. Let them know, “If you ever feel unsafe or uncomfortable, call me. I will come to help.” And if they do reach out, make sure you follow through on that promise.
For more insightful tips, check out this guide on talking to your kids about marijuana.
In summary, discussing the complexities of legal marijuana with your kids requires a thoughtful, open approach. Establishing clear expectations, avoiding scare tactics, and being supportive will help nurture their understanding of this topic.