Before stepping into the world of parenthood, I had a long list of decisions I was sure I’d stick to once I had kids. My little ones would never sport cartoon-themed shirts, my daughter would don only one-piece swimsuits, and we’d share healthy dinners every night—kids going to bed hungry if they refused my carefully prepared meals. I would maintain a wardrobe of jeans even during quiet days at home with a baby, ensuring I didn’t fall into the sweats-and-t-shirt trap. I envisioned my kids writing thank-you notes immediately after receiving gifts and limiting their screen time to just one show a day. The list went on endlessly, as only a future parent’s aspirations can.
At the very top of that list? My kids would never, ever play with toy guns.
Fast forward a few years, and I found myself breaking those self-imposed rules one by one. Television became an easy (and free!) babysitter, and our idea of family dinners turned into a running joke. Two-piece swimsuits? They weren’t so bad after all. Thank-you notes? Well, they could wait a bit longer. Most of it felt harmless—until it came to guns.
I held out for three long years, but during a summer outing to the pool, I eventually caved and bought a small water gun. That turned out to be just the beginning, leading to an entire collection of Nerf guns, foam bullets, and even target sets. Our home transformed into a wild battleground, the very kind of environment I swore my family would never have. Most nights, my kids are found playfully chasing each other, pretending to shoot and hide, laughing as they “fake die.”
Then, after hearing about a tragic shooting incident in Colorado that claimed the lives of at least 12 individuals, I felt a surge of panic. I considered gathering all those toy guns and tossing them away, reviving that old rule of mine. After all, while two-piece swimsuits can be a light-hearted issue, how did I allow something as serious as guns to become a part of playtime?
I understand that children with toy guns aren’t responsible for real-world violence, but normalizing gunplay as a form of entertainment can’t be beneficial either. Yet, knowing my boys, they’ll likely turn everyday objects—like spoons or wands—into makeshift weapons regardless. So where does that leave us? One thing is clear: I don’t want my kids running around with toy guns tonight.
What about your family?
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In summary, parenting is a journey filled with unexpected turns and compromises. While we may start with a strict list of rules, flexibility often becomes necessary. Whether it’s clothing choices or playtime activities, the key is finding what works for your family, even if it means redefining some of those early ideals.