As my son returned from his freshman year at college last May, the unmistakable aroma of teenage life filled our home once again. If you have a teenager in high school, you know that scent—it’s a unique blend of unwashed clothes, empty soda cans, and sneakers that may have seen better days. While unpacking his bags, I couldn’t help but chuckle as I discovered a collection of dirty dishes, neglected laundry, and cleaning supplies that had never been touched.
For those gearing up for college drop-offs, here are ten lessons to keep in mind:
- Don’t expect your child to clean their room. Visit their dorm on move-in day, then consider that your final tour.
- Even with a meal plan, your student is likely to spend their money on fast food and coffee shop treats instead of using the dining hall.
- It’s probably best to toss out those bathroom mats you bought. Opt for affordable replacements instead.
- Invest in a foam mattress pad; it significantly improves sleep quality. When I took my son’s home for Easter, he remarked how different his bed felt without it.
- If you visit your student midway through the year, bring oversized trash bags. You might find a mountain of empty snack wrappers and drink bottles piled up in their closet.
- Buy a lockbox for your child and secure it to their bed on day one. It’s a safe place for their tech gadgets and wallets, as theft can be surprisingly common.
- Remember, you can’t access their grades. They are legally adults now. If you’re covering tuition, ensure they understand that you expect to see their academic performance.
- Forget the university’s care packages; they often contain sweets that your child may tire of. Instead, send practical items like socks, underwear, and other essentials they might have overlooked.
- Fill their mini-fridge with water, as it will likely be the last time it’s fully stocked.
- When you pick up your child after the semester, recognize that they are no longer just your “kid.” They have grown into a young adult, even if they still try to sneak their dirty dishes into a garbage bag.
Keep in mind: Freshman year is a period of adjustment. The true experiences and memories of college will unfold during sophomore, junior, and senior years. So, don’t fret if your child struggles a bit at the start!
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In summary, navigating your child’s freshman year can be both challenging and rewarding. By understanding what to expect, you can better support them through this exciting transition.