As parents, there comes a time when we need to take a good look at the teenagers we’ve nurtured with so much care. We must approach them with a smile and say, “Get it together.” These three simple words can guide our kids toward becoming responsible adults and contribute positively to society.
My upbringing was different; my parents never used such direct expressions. Fortunately, at 18, I met someone who changed my perspective on communication. After a few dates and countless phone conversations, he gently but firmly told me something I desperately needed to hear. I was in the midst of a rant, perhaps about his choices in social issues, when he simply said, “Get it together.”
That moment was transformative. Since then, we have built a life together that has lasted nearly three decades, and that advice encouraged me to be a more empathetic and thoughtful individual. I learned to let go of unspoken expectations and to appreciate different viewpoints. Instead of believing I was always right, I began to listen more and act with kindness, like holding the door open for others.
Change doesn’t happen overnight. It took time for me to evolve into a more reasonable person. My partner had to remind me several times, but I eventually moved past the self-centered tendencies of my younger years. In contrast, my siblings didn’t have that kind of reality check, and it shows. My sister still thinks her preferences should dictate family plans, and my brother has a partner who just nods along, allowing him to maintain unrealistic expectations.
As parents, we know that the teenage years can bring out some unreasonable behavior. Between the ages of 14 and 18, kids can become convinced that the world revolves around them. This tricky transition can catch us off guard. One moment, they’re sweet little kids going to bed with a hug; the next, they’re sulking and demanding everything their way. They need our guidance to snap back to reality, so I told my sons, “Get it together.”
It’s not always easy, much like those early toddler years when we wished for a moment of peace. But together, we can tackle this challenge. Here are some classic teenage remarks that require a gentle yet firm reminder of reality:
- “I’m an adult now!”
- “I don’t want to discuss it.”
- “Whatever.”
- “Bobby’s dad said it was okay.”
- “Doesn’t everyone enjoy their wine?”
- “The game only has three minutes left; I’ll join you for dinner after.”
- “Just check the boxes to see if there’s any cereal left.”
- “Why would Aunt Martha’s funeral be scheduled during playoffs?”
- “I wasn’t trash-talking; I was just being honest.”
- “I need you to drive back to school and bring me my folder, or I might fail.”
- “While you’re up, can you grab me the ketchup, a napkin, and the remote?”
- “I’d like to finish my thought before you lecture me.”
Let’s unite in this parenting journey. We’ll have no one to blame if our kids grow up to be inconsiderate adults. It’s time to stand tall and say, with both warmth and humor, “Get it together.” This approach will benefit not only our families but the world at large.
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In summary, it’s essential to communicate with our teenagers honestly and lovingly, guiding them through the challenging transition into adulthood while holding them accountable for their actions.