When future historians sift through our photos, will they think mothers were absent from their own stories? As a society, we are exceptional at capturing every milestone our children achieve. Just take a peek at my social media feed, and you’ll see a plethora of moments documented, big and small. Yet, in our quest to preserve our children’s precious memories, we often forget to include ourselves in the picture. As Emma Lee highlighted in her insightful piece, “Mom in the Moment,” many mothers are inadvertently leaving themselves out.
I often hear from moms who hire me for family photos but request not to be in them. I always persuade them to reconsider. Others schedule sessions months in advance, hoping to shed those last few stubborn pounds. When I do capture the moment, they twist and turn to hide what they consider flaws. I’m just as guilty—if my husband looks like a movie star and my kids are angelic, I might scrap the photo if I think I don’t look my best. However, inspired by Emma’s article, I’m committed to being present in the photos, whether with my kids, my partner, or just alone. Here’s the advice I share with clients, which I’m trying to follow myself:
- Shoot from Above: Instead of the classic angle that looks up to the subject, which can be unflattering, elevate the camera. Have your photographer stand on a stool or a bench, aiming down at you for a more flattering perspective.
- Twist Your Body: Position your body at a right angle to the camera. Turn your hips toward the lens while keeping your shoulders squared back. This simple shift can create the illusion of a smaller waist.
- Chin Down: Contrary to the old advice of lifting your chin, keeping it down creates flattering contours. Leaning slightly forward will help avoid any double chin appearances.
- Genuine Smiles: A forced smile is never convincing. Get someone to share a funny story or tickle you to spark a genuine smile. If all else fails, try not smiling; it often yields a more authentic look.
- Posture Matters: Stand tall with your shoulders back. This simple adjustment can instantly make you appear taller, more slender, and exude confidence.
- Utilize Natural Light: Natural light is incredibly flattering. Turn off your camera’s flash and let the photographer stand with their back to a window for the best results.
- Choose Subtle Colors: Don’t rely on bold patterns to hide imperfections. A classic grey sweater and blue jeans can create a timeless look, especially in black and white.
- Opt for Heels: Wearing high heels can improve your posture. Even if your feet won’t be visible, they help you stand straighter.
- Involve Your Kids: If you’re uncomfortable with your appearance, use your children as props. Have them pile on your lap for a fun tickle fight; their joy will distract you from your insecurities.
- Embrace Confidence: Think of those vintage family photos—who is that stunning woman in heels? That’s you! Be the person you want future generations to ask about.
It’s time for moms to embrace the “selfie” and capture their own stories.
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In summary, it’s essential for mothers to step into the frame and capture their own memories. By following these tips, you can feel more confident and included in your family’s story.