Updated: Sep. 14, 2023
Originally Published: June 11, 2012
As a parent of school-aged children now, I sometimes forget the chaos that comes with the toddler years. Yet, those vivid memories of tantrums and meltdowns still linger. While I’m currently navigating the ups and downs of the tween phase, I can’t help but reflect on the battlefield that was toddlerhood. Armed with a few tricks (and yes, plenty of snacks and the occasional adult beverage), I want to share some effective strategies that helped me survive that unpredictable time.
1. Always Carry Crayons
Keep a set of crayons stashed in your bag — even the free ones from local eateries work wonders. When you find yourself stuck at the doctor’s office, hand them over to your little one and encourage them to draw on the protective paper of the exam table. It can be a lifesaver during those long waits! And if they happen to color the wall? Well, that’s just a testament to the doctor’s long wait time. Plus, crayons can create some hilarious playtime scenarios when used in imaginative ways.
2. Embrace Bribery
Listen, when it comes to toddlers, the usual rules don’t apply. I always kept a stash of snack-sized M&Ms in the car during my daughter’s “Terrific 3s.” Before leaving any fun outing, I’d lean in and whisper a promise of chocolate if we could leave without tears. It often worked like magic — except for those few times she was being particularly dramatic. And if you need to justify the bribes, M&Ms can double as fun counting games. Chocolate does have a way of making everyone feel a little better!
3. Create the Illusion of Choice
If your picky eater is refusing dinner, try this clever tactic: present her with two options, like pasta or rutabagas. Spoiler alert: she will never choose the rutabagas! Most likely, she’ll eat the pasta or even go to bed hungry. Plus, it’s entertaining to hear her struggle with the word “rutabaga.” If it backfires, just find something equally unappealing in your fridge and serve it up as her “option.”
4. Use a Wish List
This trick was my saving grace in stores, especially at places like Target. When my son would beg for a toy, I’d say, “Let’s add it to your wish list!” and snap a picture of the item. This satisfied his desire and allowed us to continue shopping without a meltdown. It’s also a handy strategy for last-minute gift shopping — just check your phone for his “wish list” when you need gift ideas!
5. Hide Suckers in the First Aid Kit
Trust me; there’s no better first aid item than a sucker. Sure, it will bring a smile to your child’s face when they get a tiny scrape, but its real purpose is to quiet the inevitable screaming. A sucker can work wonders in those dramatic moments. If you want to be extra prepared, stash a couple in there. And maybe even a small bottle of whiskey for yourself!
These tips have served me well, and while every parenting journey is unique, I encourage you to give them a try. My kids seem to be thriving—though I might still be adding to my therapy jar!
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Summary: Managing toddler tantrums can be challenging, but with a few clever strategies—like keeping crayons handy, using bribes, providing choices, creating wish lists, and having suckers on hand—you can navigate this chaotic stage with a bit more ease.