As a mother of three, I often reflect on the stark differences in my parenting style from when I just had one child to now. If you’re managing it all with grace, hats off to you! As for me, my current goal is simply to ensure my kids are somewhat clean and fed. My approach with our firstborn was a whole different ballgame.
Monthly Milestones
For my first child, each month was an occasion for a charming photo shoot, complete with a cute sign or adorable month stickers on their onesie. With the second, I managed to capture some monthly photos, though I might have skipped a few and the outfits were less coordinated. By the time the third came around? Not a chance!
Celebrating Holidays
For the first child, I felt compelled to send out photo cards for every holiday, including even Valentine’s Day and Easter. The second child got a celebration, but no custom cards were sent. Now, with the third, I often find myself scrambling last minute, realizing that Valentine’s Day is tomorrow and dashing out at 11 PM for whatever boxed cards I can find—hopefully, they’ll get decent treats at school!
First Birthday Bash
The first birthday of my firstborn was a meticulously planned event, Pinterest-worthy with a smash cake and a professional photo session. The second child had a simple birthday at home. And the third? Just a cake shared with the family—sorry, little one!
Educational Expectations
With my first, I was committed to teaching every little thing they needed to know and then some. For the second, I figured I’d teach what I could without stressing too much. Now with the third, I often wonder, “When did he even learn that?”
Health Concerns
For the first sniffle or fever, I’d call the doctor without hesitation. With the second, I called occasionally. By the time the third came along, the pediatrician was reaching out to me about missed check-ups!
Milestones and Development
With the first, I kept a close watch on developmental milestones and worried if something was missed. The second made me think, “Oh, I guess that’s around when the first did X, Y, Z.” As for the third? I’ve learned to just relax; he’ll get there in his own time.
Handling Injuries
When my first fell, I rushed to her side, assessing for injuries and dialing the doctor just in case. With the second, I checked for blood and bumps before deciding he was fine. The third? He’ll get up on his own!
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In summary, parenting evolves considerably with each additional child. The meticulous planning and worry that accompany the first child often give way to a more relaxed and pragmatic approach with subsequent kids. Embracing the chaos is just part of the journey!