As I sit here, the thought of returning to work looms over me like a dark cloud. Honestly, nothing feels quite as melancholic as the conclusion of my maternity leave—except perhaps watching a sad movie on repeat or stepping on the scale after an all-you-can-eat buffet. Over the past few months, I’ve formed a beautiful bond with my little one, cherishing every laugh and tear. And let’s not forget the deep connection I’ve developed with my couch and Netflix during this time.
Even though I genuinely enjoy my career, the impending return to full-time work fills me with an indescribable sadness. It seems like everyone around me has marked their calendars and is eager to discuss my return. If only they could keep their comments to themselves, much like we do with discussions about politics and religion. However, I’ve come to realize that’s a wishful thought. Instead, the well-meaning but clueless remarks from others remind me that while I’m preparing to go back to work, they could use a lesson in compassion for a new mom navigating her postpartum emotions.
So, let me enlighten you on what NOT to say to a mom about to head back to the office:
“Do you really have to go back to work?”
Returning to work is a bit like shaving my legs—it’s not required by law, but it’s necessary to prevent any confusion with Bigfoot. So yes, I have to go back, mostly because those student loan companies can be relentless!
“Who will take care of your children?”
If Nanny McPhee isn’t available and Kate Middleton has already hired the best caregivers, I guess I’ll just have to rely on a Mary Poppins DVD to keep them entertained. Believe me, I’m aware of the horror stories surrounding childcare. I won’t just leave my kids with anyone—I’m fully capable of making informed decisions about their care.
“It’ll be tougher on you than the kids.”
Thanks for the reassurance! The idea that my little ones won’t miss me is comforting, right? Perhaps I should finally take that long-sought-after sailing trip around the world, since they’ll surely forget me in no time.
“Saying goodbye will get easier.”
Not as easy as saying goodbye to this conversation!
“Get your waterproof mascara ready!”
Ah, yes! The inevitable tears will be flowing. Thanks for the heads-up—I’m going to need more than just mascara; I might need actual tar to survive the day!
“You’ll eventually find the perfect balance between work and motherhood.”
Sure! Because the world is just waiting to cater to our needs. Finding that balance is as likely as discovering the diamond necklace thrown overboard in Titanic.
“It’s good for you to go back to work; you’ll be a role model for your daughter.”
Last I checked, giving birth and teaching my child basic manners are pretty admirable feats too. Besides, I pay my taxes and vote in every election.
“Getting out of the house will be great for some adult interaction.”
Just because I’m at home doesn’t mean I’m not out and about! I can pop into Target or have a chat with the local librarian anytime I want. And frankly, I’d much rather discuss the plot holes in kids’ shows than engage in adult conversation.
“Work for a few years, then reevaluate.”
Got it! Thankfully, my profession allows me to earn enough to retire within a few years, but then there’s college, weddings, and everything else that comes with raising kids.
“The time you do spend with them will be more meaningful.”
Sure, because right now, I’m just scrolling through Facebook. But truly, every moment with my children is precious, and returning to work is a sensitive topic for many moms dealing with hormonal changes and emotional upheaval. Support us without judgment; if you can’t do that, then maybe just change the subject.
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In summary, while the end of my maternity leave brings mixed emotions, it’s crucial to approach conversations about it with sensitivity. Supportive words can make a world of difference during this transitional period.