In the past year, I’ve observed various reactions to pregnancy announcements, including my own, and I’ve come to realize that most women tend to respond in one of five distinct ways. Understanding these reactions can be crucial, as they often hint at how supportive—or unsupportive—they might be down the line.
Are you facing a know-it-all who will overwhelm you with unsolicited advice? Or maybe a mommy-shamer who’ll bombard you with statistics about why your choices may lead to disaster? Or perhaps a friend who will swoop in to rescue you during those sleepless nights when your little one decides that 2 a.m. is the perfect time for a party? Here’s a glimpse into what you might encounter:
1. The ‘Your Life Has Purpose’ Friend
This friend believes that your life was lacking meaning until you decided to have kids. No matter how many milestones you’ve achieved—be it a successful career or personal accomplishments—none of it matters now. You might be surprised when friends insist that motherhood is the only true fulfillment in life. As your child grows, any concerns you express will be met with a dismissive attitude. When my daughter only wanted to sleep on me, I was told, “How could you possibly want to put her down?” Sure, that’s helpful.
2. The ‘Your Life is Over’ Friend
While your previous life may have been deemed insignificant, this friend will happily inform you that your current life is over. You’ll never sleep peacefully or have a moment to yourself again. This friend, often surrounded by her own lively children, may share her “Congratulations…enjoy your last few moments of freedom” message. While it can feel overwhelming, remember: you’re not doomed to a life of chaos forever. Don’t let her pessimism bring you down.
3. The ‘Enjoy Your Life’ Friend
This friend believes that the best way to cope with pregnancy is with a bit of indulgence. When you announce your pregnancy, her response might be, “Congrats! Have a margarita! I did throughout my pregnancy, and my kids are great.” While her advice may not be the best, she’s the one who will be there to share a drink with you—once the baby arrives, of course. She’s the type of friend who will hold your baby while you enjoy a glass of wine.
4. The ‘Enough About You’ Friend
When you break the news to this friend, prepare for a one-sided conversation. “Congratulations! Have you been feeling okay?” you might begin, only to be interrupted by her tales of her own pregnancy experiences. Before you know it, she’ll dominate the dialogue, leaving you with little opportunity to share. Unfortunately, this pattern doesn’t stop after childbirth. To maintain your sanity, engage with her only in the presence of wine or another mutual friend who can steer the conversation back to you.
5. The ‘Make Life Easier’ Friend
This is the type of friend you’ll cherish, the one who genuinely cares. She’ll ask, “Congratulations! How are you feeling?” and may even bring you meals once you’re home from the hospital. She listens when you need to vent and celebrates every small achievement of your new life as a parent. Keep her close, as she’ll be your rock during those challenging times. I was fortunate to have several friends like this, and hopefully you will too!
Ultimately, the reactions you encounter are just a small part of the wild journey that is pregnancy. For more insightful tips and support, check out our blog post on intracervical insemination. And if you’re looking to explore options for home insemination, visit Make a Mom for some great resources. Additionally, you can find valuable information on pregnancy and infertility at WomensHealth.gov.
In summary, as you navigate the world of pregnancy, be prepared for a range of reactions from your friends. Some will uplift you, while others may bring you down. Surround yourself with those who support you and cherish the journey ahead!