Dear Kids,
I want to take a moment to express my sincere apologies for how our lives have changed. I am truly sorry that our family has been affected by my divorce from your dad. I know it feels like we’ve shattered your sense of home, and even though I’ve come to believe that this is the best decision for all of us, I understand that you’d rather have your mom and dad together, even if it means dealing with some tension.
I regret that you have to navigate the challenges of living between two homes. I remember the stress I feel when packing for just a weekend getaway, and I can only imagine how it must be for you when you have to shuffle back and forth multiple times a week. Your resilience amazes me; you handle it all without complaint. Even when you need something from the other house, you manage to adapt, which is truly commendable. I acknowledge the exhaustion this creates for both of us, and for that, I am deeply sorry.
I also empathize with the discomfort that comes with seeing your dad and me in new relationships. While it’s important for you to witness what a healthy, loving partnership looks like, I know that it can feel awkward or even embarrassing for you. It’s one thing to see affection between parents, and another to witness it with someone new. I understand how you might feel uneasy about it.
Even though your dad and I strive to keep you out of any conflict, I recognize that the reality of our separation puts you right in the middle of it all. I can imagine how challenging it is when you’re excited to share your experiences with one parent but feel guilty about enjoying those moments without the other. It breaks my heart to think that you might feel torn in these moments.
I am so sorry for the loneliness you sometimes feel at bedtime or when you miss one of us in your new home. I regret that you have to explain to your friends that you have two houses and that every holiday is split between us. I wish you could have the luxury of spending time with both parents whenever you wanted without feeling the constraints of a schedule. It pains me to hear you wish for just one dinner a year with your sister and me. I understand how much that means to you.
Most importantly, I wish I could fully grasp what it feels like to be a child of divorce. While I can relate to the struggles of growing up—feeling excluded or facing peer pressure—I cannot truly know the unique challenges you face. I promise to always walk alongside you, doing my best to understand and support you, even if I can’t fully comprehend your pain.
Despite the obstacles, I have hope that you will emerge from this experience with a broader perspective on life. You might discover compassion and flexibility that will serve you well in the future. Growing up, you’ll see your dad and I as individuals with our own lives, which may help you appreciate the complexity of relationships.
My love for you will always outweigh my feelings of guilt. I sincerely regret the difficulties that come with our separation, but I am steadfast in my belief that this was the best decision for our family’s long-term happiness.
And for that, I am still sorry.
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Summary:
In this heartfelt apology, a parent expresses remorse for the impact of their divorce on their children. They acknowledge the difficulties of living between two homes, the discomfort of seeing parents in new relationships, and the emotional struggles children face. The parent emphasizes their desire to support and understand their kids while recognizing that love remains the core of their family dynamic.