I want to take a moment to apologize for the whirlwind of chaos surrounding you during what can be one of the toughest phases of your life. While you’re navigating your teenage challenges, we are often knee-deep in diaper changes, sleepless nights with a newborn, and the dramatic escapades of a spirited three-year-old.
I regret that when you seek assistance with your homework, we are typically caught up in the evening routine, which sometimes includes stubborn tantrums. I’m sorry that during your football games, our focus is split between cheering for you, chasing after a toddler intent on splashing in muddy puddles, and tending to the needs of the baby.
It’s tough when you’re starting to discover relationships and yearn for adult conversation, only to be interrupted by a toddler who insists on repeating the same question at the top of her lungs. I understand how frustrating it must be that every time you call for our attention, the baby seems to start crying or needs something.
I know it was challenging when you first wanted to drive, and we were hesitant to let you take the siblings along for a ride; that delay in getting your hours on your learner’s permit must have felt unfair. I apologize for not being able to pick you up regularly from the train station after work, as we might be busy soothing your baby brother or dozing off while waiting for your text.
I’m sorry if I don’t recall the time of your game this Sunday or many of the things you’ve shared with me; the truth is, I haven’t had a full night’s sleep in over a year. I regret that when you’re being talked to sternly, your little siblings tend to echo our words.
I feel for you when your door suddenly swings open at odd hours, and your sibling jumps on your bed yelling about wake-up time. I apologize that when we go to the beach, instead of surfing with you, we’re busy building sandcastles and preventing the little ones from ingesting too much sand.
I regret that our outings to the movies have been centered around animated features instead of the latest action flicks you wanted to see. And yes, I understand that weekends often revolve around play centers and parks rather than more thrilling adventures like go-karting or skiing.
I know you’re feeling overwhelmed with having toddlers and babies around, longing for your own space as a teenager, but know that this is just a phase in our hectic family life.
However, I will never apologize for the joy that lights up your baby brother and sister’s faces when you walk through the door. I will never apologize for your sister asking me constantly where you are, as she keeps track of your busy schedule filled with work, school, and sports.
I’m grateful that your siblings adore you and that they can’t wait to hang out with you—even if that means early mornings or late nights. Your shared birthday with your brother is something unique, and I’m proud that you’re such a fantastic big brother.
I’m not sorry that we trust you with responsibilities that many teens don’t have; it shows how dependable you are. I’m not sorry that you get to relive your childhood in a way that’s cool and joyful, thanks to your little siblings.
I’m proud that you’ve been a role model, learning what it takes to be a parent, which will undoubtedly make you an even better father in the future. Your growth into a young man has been remarkable, and your patience as a son and brother is truly commendable.
As you continue this journey, I want you to know how proud we are of you. Your understanding, love, and acceptance of our messy, imperfect family life mean the world to us.
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In summary, life can be chaotic, but the love and bond we share as a family make it all worthwhile.