In my quest to compile The Comprehensive Guide for Young Women (Workman, new edition 2015), I reached out to numerous women to discover what wisdom they wish they had upon graduating from college—knowledge that could have alleviated struggles and eased the transition into their 20s and 30s. Here’s a valuable insight from one of them.
Name: Mia Thompson
Age: 24
Occupation: User Experience Designer
What do you wish you had known earlier?
I wish I had realized that not every situation demands a response, that loving someone doesn’t always indicate mutual readiness, and that it’s vital to learn how to embrace solitude without losing yourself in the process.
Throughout your journey, you will encounter remarkable individuals, but there will also be those who simply aren’t a good match for you. Remember, you never have to feel guilty for distancing yourself from the latter group; it often takes immense courage to do so.
However, don’t lose hope—there will be people who are your steadfast supporters—those who don’t ask you to change for them, who will cherish you on your best days and your not-so-great ones, too. If you haven’t found your tribe yet, keep looking; they truly exist and will come into your life when the time is right.
In the meantime, stand firm in your beliefs, and please, stop saying sorry for just being you.
Previously, Helen Parker reminded us, “You are not destined to be alone and without a job.”
For more insights, check out this helpful post that dives into navigating life transitions.
Summary:
In your 20s, it’s essential to know that not everything requires a reaction and that it’s important to learn how to cope with loneliness. Surround yourself with supportive individuals who appreciate you for who you are and don’t be afraid to remove those who drain your energy. Stand your ground and embrace your authentic self without apology.
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