When you go through a divorce, everything shifts dramatically. That’s putting it mildly—it’s more like you’ve stepped into a completely different universe. If you have kids, forget about just turning the page; you’re writing an entirely new story. Scratch that—you’re in a different library, in a foreign land, where the locals don’t speak your language, and the books are all out of order. Good luck finding the directory!
Single parenting is no joke. It requires a skill set you might have either a) misplaced, b) never used, or c) never possessed. From dealing with clogged sinks to mowing the lawn, and juggling the roles of both the good cop and the bad cop, the daily duties of a single parent can make even the most seasoned air traffic controller sweat.
But here’s the good news: you can thrive in this new role. With the right preparation, single parenthood can even become a rewarding experience. I promise!
Essentials for Thriving as a Single Parent
Here’s a handy list of essentials to help you come out on top of solo child-rearing (mostly) sane, with a smile on your face and reasonable therapy bills:
- A Go-To Babysitter: Ideally, find someone with no social life, so when you call her in tears from your closet at 6 p.m., she can swoop in for some much-needed “me time.”
- Backup Babysitters: You’ll want at least two or three. The criteria may change as your kids grow older, but having reliable help is crucial.
- Wine Club Membership: Or just find a discount liquor store—whatever works! Trust me, you’ll appreciate it.
- A Single Friend: Choose a buddy of the same gender and similar age. When you finally find time to dress up (and not in workout clothes or last night’s dinner attire), you’ll want a wingman/woman to hit the town with.
- A Friend with Benefits: Sometimes, let’s face it, you’ll have needs. Unless you’re into random flings or diving into a serious relationship too quickly, having someone dependable can be a game-changer. Just keep things casual—no falling in love!
- Supportive Friends: Remember to return the favor. Listen to their issues just as much as you share yours—be a team player!
- Good Neighbors: You’ll need ones who can manage to make eye contact with you the morning after a late night out, and who might even help out with the kids if necessary.
- Single Parent Networks: If you don’t know any, try platforms like MeetUp. Connecting with others in your situation is vital to feeling included and supported.
- Shared Digital Calendar: Keep a cloud-based calendar with your ex for all things related to the kids. It keeps everything organized, reduces miscommunication, and is free. Just remember to keep the sarcasm at bay!
- A Sense of Humor: If you don’t have one, get one—like NOW. Laughter is essential to turning this drama into a comedic adventure.
So stop dwelling on the negatives. The end credits will roll before you know it, so shake off the gloom and get ready to embrace this new chapter.