The paperwork is done, the fees are paid, and now there’s no turning back. A wave of panic, fear, and anxiety washes over you—your child is heading off to sleepaway camp.
Sending your child away for their first summer can feel monumental. It’s a significant step in their journey towards independence, and the months leading up to it can be particularly daunting. Kids learn how to manage responsibilities without a parent swooping in to save the day. My daughter, Lily, was ready last year, but I found the process of letting go to be much tougher on me than on her. After stepping away from my career to focus on parenting, the thought of my first child leaving felt like a taste of “empty nest syndrome.”
As departure day approached, Lily expressed her own worries: “I’m not sure about getting on that bus.” The inner voice in my head screamed, “Just stay home! I’ll take care of you forever!” But I composed myself, reassured her that all the other kids were feeling the same way, and that she would have a blast once she arrived. With a mix of fear and excitement, she boarded the bus, waved goodbye, and off she went. Meanwhile, I did what any rational parent would do—I took my younger child to a morning movie, indulged in popcorn and M&Ms, and sobbed through it all while watching the latest animated feature.
For the next two weeks, I found myself constantly refreshing my computer for camp photos, analyzing every image for signs of joy or sadness. I eagerly awaited that first letter, and when it finally arrived, I cried—tears of joy and relief. This was pretty much the routine for the next seven weeks.
Ultimately, we all came out of the experience transformed for the better. Lily had an amazing time and grew in ways I hadn’t anticipated. Her sibling missed her but enjoyed being the sole focus of our attention. All in all, it turned out to be a wonderful summer. If you’re facing a similar situation this year, here are some strategies to help make the transition smoother for everyone involved.
Before the Summer Begins…
- Choosing the Right Camp: The options can feel overwhelming—co-ed or single-gender, near or far from home, specialized programs vs. general ones. A camp director friend wisely reminded me, “In the end, they’re just cabins in the woods.” Determine your must-haves, visit a few camps, and trust your instincts. If the camp aligns with your priorities, you can feel confident in your choice.
- Connect with Other Campers: If possible, reach out to other kids in your area who will be attending the same camp. Having a familiar face can ease anxiety, and returning campers can provide invaluable insights you won’t find in the camp’s guide. Aim to make these connections a few weeks before camp so you can pack any additional items your child might need.
- Stick to the Essentials List: You’ll receive a list of camping necessities—follow it! Don’t feel pressured to buy anything unnecessary. Stained socks from soccer season? Perfect! Just make sure to label everything that matters, as you never know the condition your child’s belongings will be in upon their return. (We love namebubbles.com for labeling.) Also, keep an eye out for any trends among campers, like popular socks. If it’s feasible, let your child partake. Don’t stress over the details—a simple shower caddy will suffice.
Once They’re At Camp…
- Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff: Things like sunscreen, showers, and hair brushing? Camp staff will handle most of that. My daughter came back a little sun-kissed and with a slight odor, but a thorough wash took care of everything.
- Weight Concerns: Expect your child to lose a bit of weight as they’re constantly active. If you have concerns about their eating habits, talk to the camp director. Otherwise, don’t panic. Kids will bounce back once they return home. My daughter came back looking a bit gaunt but quickly regained her healthy weight.
On Visiting Day…
- Ask Thoughtful Questions: Instead of overwhelming your child, consider asking simple questions like, “Are you having fun?” or “How’s your bed?” It’s easy to pry for details, but sometimes, all they need is reassurance. When I asked my daughter if she was okay after three weeks apart, she simply gave me a thumbs up and went back to her activities.
- Candy and Treats Policy: Resist the urge to fill your car with sweets. Check the camp’s policy on snacks—some allow kids to keep treats for a week, while others may take them away immediately. Bring a few of your child’s favorites and perhaps a shared treat for the bunk, like a special cake. A small gift, such as a new hat or sports jersey, can also lift their spirits.
- Avoid Inspections: Don’t inspect their living quarters or bathrooms; they will undoubtedly be messy. Give yourself permission to look the other way!
- Quick Goodbyes: When it’s time to leave, keep the farewell brief. Grab a bunkmate or counselor, hug your child, and depart promptly. Lingering can make it harder for both you and them.
After They Return Home…
- Give Them Space: Some kids struggle with re-adjusting after camp, but time and space usually help. My daughter came home as if she’d never been away. Once the initial excitement wore off, I was already anticipating sending her back! A month or so after camp, you can finally ask all those questions you’ve held onto. The memories will still be fresh, and you can find out if they want to attend again. For my daughter, the answer was a resounding “Yes!”
Sleepaway camp is an incredible opportunity for kids to gain independence, and it can provide parents with their own space to grow. You’ll both survive this transition!
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In summary, sending your child to sleepaway camp is a significant milestone that can lead to growth for both child and parent. With careful preparation and a little bravery, you can navigate this experience successfully while fostering independence in your child.