Parenting can be a challenging and rewarding journey, yet there are certain comments from those without children that can be frustrating and dismissive. As someone who once lived without kids, I can understand the sentiment, but it’s time to highlight what non-parents should think twice about saying to parents. Here are some key phrases that just don’t sit well:
- “I can’t imagine ever wanting kids!” This is great to know, but it can feel like a jab at our lives. If you think parenting is so dreadful, perhaps you could join us for a day and see how it goes?
- “You haven’t seen that movie yet? It’s been out for weeks!” Believe it or not, managing a household and kids doesn’t leave much time for recent releases. Between laundry and dinner prep (or supervising “art projects”), we often miss out on the latest entertainment.
- “You never call anymore.” Keeping little ones alive is a full-time job. Just when you think you can take a moment to breathe, there’s a mini-crisis brewing. We think of you often, and we promise to catch up when we can.
- “We’re having an adult-only gathering.” We get it—some events aren’t suited for children. But casual gatherings like barbecues can be family-friendly! Plus, babysitters aren’t exactly cheap these days.
- “We’re getting a puppy to see if we’re ready for a baby.” While both puppies and babies require care, they are not the same. If you want to understand parenting, spend a day with us—if you dare!
- “Are you really going to wear ‘dad shorts’ or ‘mom jeans’?” Just because we’re parents doesn’t mean we lose our sense of style. We might embrace practicality, but our personalities are still intact.
- “It must be nice to stay home all day with the kids.” Sure, it’s rewarding, but it can also feel like a marathon of endless activities and noise. Try to survive a day of toddler tantrums and endless cartoons!
- “Why don’t you just let loose tonight? You’re kid-free!” We might want to have fun, but the consequences of a wild night can be severe when the kids wake up early the next day.
- “That kid is out of control!” As if yours are perfect! All kids have their moments, and it’s not fair to single one out when we all know they can be a handful.
- “Could you please be on time?” While it sounds simple, getting out of the house with children is a logistical nightmare. We’re packing way more than just a kid!
- “I didn’t invite you because you never say yes.” Please keep inviting us! We genuinely want to join you when the timing is right; we promise we’ll eventually make it.
- “You look exhausted. Are you okay?” Yes, we might look tired after a long night of parenting chaos, but it’s just part of the gig!
- “When I have kids, I’m going to…” Please refrain from making sweeping promises about your future parenting style. Until you’re in the trenches, it’s hard to truly know how it is.
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In summary, while non-parents may have good intentions, some comments can unintentionally undermine the challenges of parenting. Let’s strive for understanding and support, regardless of where we are in our life journeys.