As someone named John, I can assure you that it’s a pretty straightforward name. Yet, you’d be surprised how often people struggle to accept it as my actual name. Instead, they tend to guess names like Jon, Juan, or even Jhon (seriously, when did that become an option?). It’s as if there’s an innate confusion when they see me, a complex mix of perception and expectation.
Sure, my beard might not help with first impressions, especially at airports where I frequently get pulled aside for “random” checks. But it’s not just my appearance that prompts this bafflement. It seems there’s a mental block that leads people to believe that I simply cannot be named John. They conjure up names they deem more fitting, often overlooking the obvious.
When I introduce myself, I often get a follow-up question: “How do you spell that?” I want to respond, “How do you think?! It’s spelled just like every other John!” But I keep it polite and spell it out. The conversation doesn’t end there, though. The next question is usually, “But that’s not your real name, is it?” And yes, it is.
My parents, who immigrated from Egypt, believed they were making a wise choice by giving me a name that would help me fit in. They wanted to spare me the teasing that can come with having a name that is unfamiliar in a new country. I think of my friend, Samir, whose name didn’t fit in quite as well, and the challenges he faced growing up. The laughter from classmates can be harsh, especially when you’re just a kid trying to find your place.
My parents hoped that naming me John would provide opportunities that their own names might not have afforded them. They envisioned a future where I could seamlessly integrate and thrive in American society. My dad used to joke that I could even be president one day, and in his mind, having a name like John was part of that dream.
Sometimes I imagine the moment my name was chosen. My dad, in a peaceful sleep, likely dreaming of my future, suddenly wakes up in a panic, yelling, “John! We must name him John!” So, despite any potential backlash from our community, my parents chose a name that would, in theory, cause no complications.
It’s not their fault; they acted with the best intentions. They couldn’t have predicted that people would struggle to accept my name. Interestingly, my brothers, who have more common names like Steve and Andrew, don’t encounter the same confusion. Nor does my wife, whose name is Sarah. I can’t help but wonder if the difference lies in appearances.
The reality is that a name alone doesn’t determine how people perceive you. Perhaps I should consider adopting a name that fits the mold more neatly. But could I still aspire to greatness with a name like Zaid, or maybe even Barack?
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In summary, while my parents had the best intentions in naming me John, it highlights the complexities that come with names in multicultural settings. A name is more than just a label; it can shape perceptions and experiences. So, if you’re an immigrant parent, think carefully about the lasting impact a name can have on your child’s journey.