The conversation surrounding Lori Gottlieb’s provocative 2008 essay “Marry Him! The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough” in The Atlantic has persisted for years, often veering into troubling territory. The comments section has transformed into a repository of sexist attitudes and dismissive remarks about women, with a chorus of voices suggesting that women overestimate their desirability.
One commenter, Mike123, asserts, “Many women have inflated expectations when it comes to men. They often see themselves as stunning when they’re just average.” Clearly, Mike123 has taken it upon himself to determine a woman’s worth—her self-perception apparently doesn’t count!
Another individual, Jimbo, lamented his own dating struggles, claiming he’s looking for women who are “smart and attractive,” yet his experiences seem to suggest women are at fault for their unrealistic standards. He bemoans, “Women have a skewed sense of reality… they need to compromise more if they expect to marry.”
This pattern continues, as discussions digress into confusing advice and harsh criticisms of women, with some suggesting tactics like “negging” to improve dating prospects. Then there’s Chris, who declares, “WOMEN ARE STUPID!” after a relationship failure, attributing his woes to the intelligence levels of women he meets.
Interestingly, cultural factors also come into play, as Raj, a Sikh man, shares the challenges he faced when dating. His story about a breakup due to cultural differences received mixed reactions, revealing a lack of understanding from others in the thread.
Yet amidst this negativity, there are stories of resilience. A woman, Sarah, boldly states, “I left a man who wanted to marry me because I refused to settle. I’m 40 with no regrets; I’d rather wait for the right person than compromise my happiness.”
Another commenter, Tom, reflects on his mother’s success in finding love online at an older age, countering the notion that it’s “too late” for women past a certain age.
In recent years, the conversations have shifted slightly, with more voices emerging to advocate for self-acceptance and authenticity. However, the persistent narrative remains: women are often shamed, whether they choose to settle, remain single, or pursue motherhood independently.
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In summary, the discourse surrounding women’s choices in partnerships is often mired in unrealistic expectations and societal judgments. However, there is a growing recognition that personal happiness and fulfillment are paramount, regardless of age or relationship status.