When discussing the ways women navigate professional settings—like how we approach asking for a raise or even our posture—it’s important to remember that the issue isn’t about women’s behavior. The real problem lies in the sexism that persists in our culture.
However, grooming practices are a different matter. Choosing to spend less time on hair styling or skin care is not the same as altering how we advocate for ourselves in a workplace. Time and money are interchangeable resources; the half hour spent applying makeup could be devoted to something more rewarding, and the $139 for a fancy skincare tool could be better spent on something enjoyable. By skipping costly and uncomfortable hair removal treatments, you can save both time and money. My piece essentially questions what might change if women devoted less time to grooming and more time to living fully.
Clara notes that men also invest time and money in hobbies such as sports, cars, and entertainment yet still advance in their careers—a fact that points back to sexism. This is accurate. However, grooming is not merely a frivolous pastime like those; it’s often a necessary response to societal expectations around femininity. The standards for what is deemed “appropriate for work” differ significantly between genders, placing a heavier burden on women.
Clara mentions that my article might imply a simplistic view of why women should just “rebel correctly” to bring about change. Yet, grooming is an area where rebellion is not just warranted—it’s historically significant. From the suffragettes wearing bloomers to flapper Irene Castle’s bobbed hair, and even Hillary Clinton’s choice of pantsuits, rejecting restrictive grooming and fashion norms is a path toward cultural transformation.
Moreover, it’s true that not all women feel the weight of an extensive grooming routine; many have mastered a quick and efficient look. Yes, some women enjoy the process of primping (I can be guilty of it myself; a great lipstick can certainly boost one’s mood). And yes, men also invest time in their appearances—marketers are adept at exploiting vanity and insecurities across the board.
While no one is suggesting we abandon grooming altogether, there’s a vast disparity between what is expected of men and women, often consuming excessive time and finances. We must acknowledge when the normal desire to enhance one’s appearance crosses over into a cultural norm that benefits one gender over another.
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In summary, while grooming plays a role in societal expectations, it’s essential to recognize the underlying issues of sexism that drive these standards. By challenging the norms around grooming, women can reclaim their time and resources, paving the way for a more equitable future.