It’s a common sentiment that the holidays can be quite dreadful, and while I can’t pinpoint the exact reason, I have a theory. Over my 45 years of navigating life’s ups and downs—often filled with disappointment—I’ve stumbled upon a little secret that can transform how we experience the holiday season: 1. Lower your expectations. 2. Aside from essential duties, avoid any obligations you don’t genuinely want to fulfill.
I often hear friends lament about returning home for the holidays, citing issues from sugar-crazed kids to family tensions. While I don’t face these specific challenges, I still find myself reluctant to visit during Christmas. Why is that? Honestly, I’m not sure. I’d much prefer to see my parents when the weather is pleasant, allowing us to venture outside. I’m not keen on observing my nieces engrossed in texting their friends about their gifts, as it only serves to remind me of how time flies and how I’d rather not feel that way.
Now, if that inner voice is suggesting you’re not thrilled about holiday visits, heed it! It’s not prompting you to attend and then grumble about it; it’s telling you to skip it altogether.
Another prevalent complaint during this season is the financial strain of gift-giving. Here’s an easy workaround: don’t feel obligated to buy gifts for everyone. Instead, consider giving one thoughtful gift to someone special. For instance, this year, I chose to give a few books to a friend who I knew would appreciate them. That single gesture satisfied my holiday spirit; I simply declared it as my Christmas shopping complete!
Of course, this strategy doesn’t apply to young children who are aware of gifts. It’s easier to buy them something than to explain why you didn’t. However, when they’re old enough to understand the financial realities, don’t shy away from sharing that insight. Kids benefit from a sprinkle of adult honesty, just as I did.
This no-gift philosophy can extend to holiday gatherings too. Personally, I’m not a fan of office parties, so guess what? I’m skipping mine! No excuses needed; I’m just choosing not to attend! (And by the way, remember that one thoughtful gift I mentioned? You don’t have to show up at every holiday gathering either.)
So, what else am I opting out of this holiday season? Honestly, not much! I dream of lounging with a glass of bourbon while re-watching The Ghost Writer for the fifth time. I know I’ve advised you to temper your expectations for the holidays, but doesn’t that sound like a great way to unwind?
Maybe it’s simple-minded, but enjoying a few days off during a season when it’s perfectly acceptable to stay in and binge-watch shows seems pretty darn good to me. If you’re struggling to view the holidays as a time for mild enjoyment rather than dread, try repeating these words to yourself: “The holidays. The holidays. The holidays.” They ring so benign and comforting. Imagine sipping on some supermarket eggnog—ah, delightful!
In conclusion, the key to enjoying the holidays lies in adjusting your perspective and expectations. Whether it’s skipping the stress of gift-giving or avoiding unwanted gatherings, find your own way to celebrate (or not celebrate) in a manner that brings you joy.
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