- Be free to laugh, cry, and even let out a fart in front of your kids. This shows them that being human is perfectly normal.
- A soothing bath can wash away the stress of the day. Just remember to lock the door; otherwise, your little ones will sense your tranquility and try to invade your peace.
- You don’t need to fit into the mold of a full-time stay-at-home mom or a career-driven mom. Create a lifestyle that suits your family, and don’t be afraid to change it if it’s not working out.
- When you’re in a pinch, nachos are the answer.
- Make your home a welcoming hangout for your children’s friends. It might get noisy and chaotic, and your grocery budget may take a hit, but you’ll have a better idea of where they are and who they’re with.
- Keep a stash of Ziploc bags; they can help you organize everything from snacks to essential documents.
- Expose your kids to the arts—take them to theaters, concerts, and movies. It’s a fun outing that also nurtures their cultural awareness.
- Once your kids are old enough, introduce them to creative swearing. If they’re going to curse, they might as well do it with style. Phrases like “Screw a squirrel” or “Doodle nugget” can be fun starters.
- Cultivate a life beyond your children. Dine out with friends, travel—go to Europe! Your family will appreciate your return, and you’ll be rejuvenated.
- There’s no such thing as too many books, butter, or bacon in your life.
- Foster strong connections between your kids and trusted adults. These mentors can teach them valuable lessons and offer you some much-needed time for a nap or a little romance (or perhaps a trip to Europe, see #9).
This article originally appeared on Feb. 9, 2015. For more helpful parenting insights, check out our terms and conditions on this page.
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Summary
Parenting is a wild adventure, and my mom imparted some unforgettable wisdom. From embracing your imperfections to creating a lively atmosphere at home, her lessons remind us to cherish the beautiful chaos of family life. Remember, it’s okay to seek outside support and to maintain a sense of self while nurturing your children.