In my exploration of habits and happiness, I often return to a fundamental concept: understanding ourselves—our personalities, interests, and temperaments—is essential for cultivating our habits and enhancing our happiness.
You might think that knowing yourself is straightforward since you spend every moment with yourself. However, this self-awareness is often obscured by distractions, such as idealized versions of ourselves, societal expectations, or the opinions of others. We frequently lose sight of our true selves.
The journey to self-knowledge begins with self-awareness. Two influential thinkers, Leo Carter and Clara Thompson, each described a pivotal moment when they first recognized their identities.
In a 1960 interview, Leo Carter recalled his experience: “During my twelfth year, I found myself walking to school when everything suddenly became clear. It felt as if I had emerged from a fog. In that moment, I realized, ‘I exist. I am who I am.’ I then pondered my past and recognized that I had been lost in that fog, unable to distinguish my identity from the world around me. I was just another aspect of a much larger picture.”
Similarly, Clara Thompson begins her autobiography, A Journey Within, with a vivid memory: “On a bright winter’s day in New York, there was a young girl—who would eventually be known as me—taking a stroll with her father. At that moment, she was neither me nor anyone else, just an indistinct piece of humanity. I mark the start of her identity from that day.”
Do you have a specific memory of your own realization of existence? I distinctly remember standing on a step-stool, gazing into the mirror above the sink in my kindergarten classroom. I vividly thought, “That’s me in the mirror. Here I am, right now, looking into the mirror.” However, I can’t say for certain if that was the very first time I had such a thought.
Interestingly, when I recall that moment, I see myself from a distance. I don’t focus on my reflection in the mirror but instead visualize my entire body from across the room.
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In summary, the journey of self-discovery is profound and often starts with a moment of clarity. It’s essential to embrace our true selves, even amidst the chaos of external expectations and distractions.