Take the quiz below to evaluate your reactions to criticism, and discover Dr. Richards’ strategies for gracefully handling feedback.
Feedback is essential for personal growth, yet many individuals shy away from it due to anxiety, perceiving it as a threat. This avoidance can hinder optimal progress toward your goals. Additionally, if you’re unresponsive to feedback or react negatively out of anxiety, your relationships with those offering feedback may suffer. This guide aims to help you navigate these common challenges.
Take the quiz to determine your level of fear regarding criticism. Select the response that resonates most with you. If none fit perfectly, choose the closest option.
The Quiz
- When considering feedback on your work, how likely are you to anticipate negative responses?
(A) I usually expect positive feedback since I see myself as capable.
(B) I feel uneasy about a negative response but can handle it.
(C) I typically assume the feedback will be negative. - If your supervisor highlights nine strengths and one area for improvement, how do you typically react?
(A) I plan actionable steps to maintain positive feedback.
(B) I appreciate the overall positive feedback, but the negative comment bothers me a bit.
(C) That one negative comment sticks with me for days. - How confident are you in your ability to handle valid negative feedback?
(A) I trust my ability to make necessary changes.
(B) I might dwell on it for a while, but I know I’ll recover after some self-care.
(C) I’d feel so hurt and embarrassed that facing the feedback giver again would be difficult. - To what extent do you take negative feedback personally?
(A) I don’t usually personalize feedback.
(B) I do personalize it sometimes, but I usually notice it.
(C) Negative feedback feels like a personal rejection. - How likely are you to shy away from feedback on your work?
(A) I embrace feedback; it’s valuable.
(B) I avoid feedback in some areas of my life but not all.
(C) I seek feedback only when absolutely necessary; I’d prefer a root canal. - When someone behaves oddly toward you and there’s no clear reason, how do you typically react?
(A) I think, “It’s probably about them, not me, so overthinking won’t help.”
(B) I worry I might have offended them, and I try to be extra nice to remedy the situation.
(C) I obsess over the reason for their behavior for days. - When you ask someone if a certain outfit looks good on you, do you genuinely want their answer?
(A) Absolutely.
(B) Yes, but only if they phrase their response gently.
(C) Definitely not.
Scoring Your Responses
Mostly A’s: You generally perceive feedback and criticism as beneficial, and they don’t intimidate you. While you might feel a brief sting with negative feedback, you can contextualize it without overreacting. You believe in your capacity to adapt and improve based on feedback.
Mostly B’s: You sometimes expect criticism to be negative. When you receive a mix of positive and negative feedback, the negatives tend to weigh heavily on you. While you recognize that feedback isn’t always personal, you occasionally struggle to separate yourself from the critique.
Mostly C’s: Feedback is a significant source of anxiety for you. You feel vulnerable and exposed upon receiving it. Anticipating negativity leads to feelings of inadequacy, and you often avoid seeking feedback because it triggers excessive rumination. The fear of feedback can lead you to miss out on valuable opportunities.
Strategies for Handling Criticism
- Reframe Your Mindset: Train yourself to recognize that feedback may not be personal. If you find yourself feeling anxious, remind yourself that your worries may stem from your own insecurities rather than actual criticism.
- Practice Receiving Feedback: It’s easier to accept negative feedback when you have a positive relationship with the feedback giver. Start by seeking input from someone who believes in you to build your comfort level.
- Request Small Feedback Bites: If feedback is daunting, start with small requests. For example, instead of seeking feedback from a large group, ask one trusted individual first. This allows for gradual processing and emotional recovery.
- Embrace Your Sensitivity: Recognize that being sensitive to feedback is a natural trait. It reflects your desire for social acceptance and can guide you toward positive interactions. Instead of dismissing your sensitivity, acknowledge its roots and use it to foster growth.
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Summary
Understanding your fear of feedback and criticism can lead to personal growth and improved relationships. By recognizing your responses and implementing strategies to handle feedback, you can transform anxiety into a constructive tool for development.