8 Reasons Parents Today Should Chill Out

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Recently, while I was multitasking (you know, scrolling through social media and checking out parenting blogs), I stumbled upon a post about a mom who crafts a unique Disney princess dress for her daughter every time they visit a Disney Park. Seriously, every single trip! I’m not exaggerating.

Here’s the catch: I don’t recall my mom ever doing something like that for me. In fact, I don’t remember any of my friends’ parents going to those lengths either.

Here’s a trip down memory lane:

1. I don’t remember my parents attending every single sports match, play, or music rehearsal I participated in. Instead, I recall being dropped off with a quick “be back in two hours” at the curb.
2. I can’t say I recall my mom being present at every classroom event, birthday celebration, or school assembly. They made it to significant milestones, sure, but honestly, I spent more time with my teachers than my parents during my formative years.
3. Growing up, I went to Disney two times, and I wore an off-the-rack outfit from Sears—not some handmade dress. My childhood attire didn’t come from a designer; it was simply whatever was on sale.
4. Words like “playdates” or “conscious uncoupling” weren’t even in our vocabulary. When someone had a rough time, people simply dealt with it. Kids played outside, and parents didn’t overanalyze everything.
5. My parents didn’t eavesdrop on my conversations or try to friend me on social media. I had my own phone line (the one luxury I had as a teen), and they respected my privacy. If I missed curfew, I faced consequences without a lengthy discussion.
6. My parents were not my friends; they were my guardians. Sure, we argued and rolled our eyes at each other, but they maintained their role as parents. I couldn’t imagine them wanting to be on my social media.
7. Birthday parties back then were simple affairs. I don’t remember catering or extravagant cakes. Costumes were made of plastic and came from the grocery store. Christmas gifts were standard fare from department stores, and we were perfectly content with that.
8. I don’t recall being enrolled in multiple activities at once. I participated in a few things, but it wasn’t a competition for “which kid can do the most.” Parents didn’t feel the need to spend thousands on dance lessons or sports camps just to ensure their kids excelled.

Let me be clear: I’m as guilty as the next parent of trying to keep up with expectations. My kids have had their share of activities, and we’ve been to Disney more than twice. I even make their Halloween costumes from scratch! I know my mom chuckles at my efforts.

What I’m getting at is that we should take a step back and reconsider the pressures we place on ourselves and our children. The idea that a handmade dress is essential for a trip to see Mickey Mouse is just plain absurd. This culture of excess—from lavish birthday parties to designer costumes—teaches kids that they should always want more.

So, when does it end? If my mom saw me sewing dresses for my kids’ Disney trips, she’d probably send me to bed without dinner!

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In Summary:

Today’s parenting culture often emphasizes extravagant gestures and overscheduling, which can lead to unrealistic expectations for both parents and children. It’s essential to find balance and recognize that simpler times often brought just as much joy.