If I had a dollar for every time I heard a parent say, “I don’t want them labeled,” I could probably pay off my mortgage, yours too, and still have enough for a shiny new car. Let’s have an honest conversation about this.
I understand where you’re coming from; I’ve been there myself. But let’s get real: this isn’t about you. The moment your child was born, and the doctor announced, “It’s a boy!” or “It’s a girl!”, the focus shifted. I totally get the urge to throw a pity party for yourself, but avoiding labels isn’t doing your child any favors. Are you worried that a label will harm them? Ignoring the reality isn’t going to help either.
Your child already carries a label—the quirky one, the troublemaker, the “What’s going on with that kid?” label. Why not embrace a more accurate description? More importantly, it’s about ensuring they receive the right support for success.
Yes, labels can feel like a necessary evil. I know being practical isn’t the most exciting thing, but it’s crucial. Do you think you’ll convince an insurance company to fund vague, unspecified help? I can’t even get coverage for adequate speech therapy for my child who has been diagnosed with autism! And don’t even get me started on the annual conversations I have with them. “Yes, he still needs speech therapy, and no, he hasn’t magically overcome his severe communication issues just because we hit the limit.”
And when it comes to school, let’s be clear: you’ll need that label. No one is handing out Individualized Education Programs (IEPs) just for fun. If you want your child to receive the free and appropriate education they are entitled to, you’ll need to accept that label. It’s essential if you want a tailored educational experience for your child.
I completely understand the denial phase; I was in it for years. It took time for me to acknowledge what was right in front of me. Once I did, I became accustomed to it. It’s not about getting better; it’s about discovering your child’s unique rhythm. I began following the guide that autism had provided in my life. Sure, there were plenty of “window fries” along the way, and I learned more about trains than I ever imagined. I also started to communicate with my child in a way that worked for both of us. The label became less significant as I focused on the connection.
In short, I got over myself. Every parent wants the best for their child. Whether it’s autism or another challenge, let’s not add the burden of guilt to the mix.
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In summary, don’t shy away from labels; they can provide essential support and resources for your child’s success. Accepting these realities can lead to a more fulfilling experience for both of you.