From online articles to popular TV series, the depiction of working moms often relies on a set of common stereotypes. While some of these portrayals can be humorous or thought-provoking, they frequently paint us as guilt-ridden, chaotic, and perpetually exhausted, yet still striving for career success. These representations, while not entirely inaccurate, miss the mark for many of us. Here are five truths that resonate with my experience as a working mother:
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I Don’t Experience Guilt About Working
Instead of feeling guilty about my job, I find myself feeling remorseful for small things, like serving my son cold Pop-Tarts for breakfast or letting him watch hours of cartoons. When I first dropped him off at daycare, I anticipated a wave of guilt; however, I was surprised to feel a profound sense of relief. I realized I was entrusting him to professionals who knew far more about child development than I did. Now that he’s a toddler, I love watching him thrive when he’s away from me. Sure, he may cry during drop-offs, but sometimes he doesn’t even want to leave at the end of the day! -
I’ve Never Shown Up to Work with Spit-Up on My Clothes
Can we please retire this cliché? I expected to be that mom returning to work covered in baby spit-up, but it has never happened to me. Sure, I’ve had my share of snot on my pants or crumbs from snacks in my pockets, but never spit-up. It’s a stereotype that seems to persist in media, but it certainly doesn’t reflect my reality. -
I Have Immense Respect for Stay-at-Home Moms
There seems to be a misconception that working moms and stay-at-home moms are at odds with each other. This can make giving compliments feel patronizing. Honestly, I used to think that staying home with kids was a walk in the park. After having my little one, though, I quickly learned that it’s incredibly demanding—both physically and emotionally. While work is still work, the mental shift of going to my job helps keep me balanced. I have tremendous respect for stay-at-home moms; they are doing a job that I simply couldn’t handle. Mad respect, I tell you. -
When Daycare Calls, I Let the Voicemail Pick Up
In the beginning, I jumped at my phone whenever it rang, fearing the worst. Each call usually started with, “It’s not an emergency, but…” and would include minor issues like a missing shoe or a low supply of milk. Of course, there were times I had to leave work for legitimate concerns, but I learned that daycare staff would leave messages for serious matters. Now, as long as I check my voicemail periodically, I don’t have to rush to answer every call. -
Picking Up My Son from Daycare is the Highlight of My Day
I can’t emphasize enough how much I cherish this moment. I often sneak a peek through the classroom window before entering, enjoying watching him engage in activities. When our eyes meet, and he comes running towards me with a big smile and open arms, it makes my heart swell. Sometimes, he even takes my hand to show me something exciting from his day. It’s a joy to witness his little adventures and know he wants to share them with me.
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Summary
Being a working mother is nuanced, filled with unique experiences that defy stereotypes. From the joy of daily reunions with my child to the respect I hold for stay-at-home moms, my journey is shaped by moments of relief and fulfillment. The portrayal of working mothers in media often misses the complexities of our lives, but sharing these truths helps illuminate our reality.