A woman’s relationship with her body can be a complex and challenging journey. Our skin, hair, teeth, and bones can often bring about feelings of discomfort, regret, and even fear. Thankfully, voices like Amy Schumer are helping to peel back the layers of this deeply rooted shame. While societal pressures are ever-present (and I do hold them accountable), it’s ultimately our self-perception that remains when we strip away the exterior. My mother provided me with invaluable insights that prepared me for the body image struggles we all face. Here are six truths she imparted:
1. Maintain a Respect for Cleanliness
From an early age, my mom instilled in me the importance of hygiene. I learned to flush public toilets with my foot long before I could reach the handle. She demonstrated how to open stall doors with tissue, wash hands thoroughly, and even press elevator buttons with her knuckles. This rigorous hygiene routine has kept me in excellent health—seriously, you should see her with a bottle of Windex!
2. Endure Discomfort When Necessary
At the tender age of five, I had a memorable showdown with my mom over using detangling spray. I fidgeted and protested while she combed my hair, and in response, she spun a scary tale about a princess who refused to let her mother brush her hair and ended up bald. That story silenced me instantly! Thanks to her, I’ve become adept at tolerating discomfort—just ask the aesthetician who takes care of my waxing needs.
3. No Cutesy Nicknames for Body Parts
In our family, we didn’t use silly names for body parts. My vagina was simply referred to as that, even if I struggled to pronounce it as a baby. Visiting friends’ homes, I was perplexed by terms like “twinkle” or “sissy spot.” My mom believed that there’s no need for euphemisms—after all, we don’t call our elbows anything other than what they are. Fast forward four decades: I now write about sexuality and feel completely at ease discussing topics many find embarrassing.
4. Menstruation Is Natural, Not Shameful
I stumbled upon a tampon at age six and asked my mom what it was. She took the time to explain menstruation, creating a no-shame environment for discussing reproductive health. When I eventually got my period, I felt prepared rather than panicked—thanks to her sensible guidance. While cramps still stung, the anxiety surrounding them was considerably diminished.
5. Food Is for Nourishment, Not Fear
My family isn’t known for being model-thin; my paternal grandmother was overweight, and my mom’s side is on the petite side. While dieting trends were prevalent in the ‘80s, my mother’s focus was never on achieving an ideal weight. She fostered an open dialogue about body image, allowing me to develop a healthy relationship with food. Her message was clear: if you feel unattractive or unworthy, just talk to me about it.
6. True Beauty Comes from Within
To be fair, my mom resembles a Jewish Grace Kelly, making her lessons on beauty seem easy for her to convey. Although she is undeniably stunning (and still is at 70), she taught me that real beauty stems from kindness and joy. We enjoyed shopping for pretty things, but I’ve learned that my mood and demeanor play a significant role in how others perceive me.
These lessons shaped my understanding of body image and self-worth, and I hope they resonate with you too. For those navigating similar journeys, check out this resource for invaluable information on pregnancy and home insemination. If you’re interested in self-insemination kits, this site provides expert resources as well. You can also explore this link for more insights.
In summary, the relationship we have with our bodies is often shaped by our early experiences and the lessons we learn from those closest to us. My mother’s guidance has helped me navigate this complex terrain with confidence and self-acceptance.