As my daughter approaches her teenage years, we find ourselves on the brink of the ever-challenging “tween mood swings” phase. I can hardly endure another episode of door-slamming and the emotional rollercoaster of “I love you, no wait, I hate you!” According to a recent article from Today’s Parent, the tumultuous emotions that characterize these years stem from an uptick in growth hormones coupled with a developing brain that’s still figuring out how to manage feelings.
Think of it this way: as psychologist and author Mark Jensen describes, it’s as if the gas pedal is fully pressed down, but the brakes are nowhere to be found. This chaotic emotional landscape can be tough for both tweens and their parents. So, how can we help our kids navigate this tricky terrain without resorting to wine? Here are three positive strategies to consider:
1. Stay Unbothered
Expert and family therapist Maria Collins suggests that during the tween years, kids often test boundaries to assert their independence. The trick is to keep your cool. When your tween expresses disdain for your homemade dinner, respond to what they say rather than how they say it. For instance, if they say they dislike your lasagna, calmly acknowledge their feelings and shift the conversation to something else. This way, you maintain a peaceful family environment.
2. Promote Healthy Routines
Moodiness can intensify when kids are tired or running on empty. Encourage your tween to engage in physical activity for at least an hour each day. Whether it’s a brisk walk or a bike ride together, exercise can boost their mood. Remember, though, that balance is key—proper nutrition and sufficient sleep are essential and should not be compromised for excessive activities.
3. Be a Compassionate Listener
At this stage, simply being present can go a long way. Instead of jumping into “fix-it” mode when they share their feelings, focus on truly listening. Initiating a relaxed conversation during a car ride or while playing catch can create a comfortable atmosphere for dialogue. Some kids might even find texting a less daunting way to communicate their thoughts, so consider giving that a try.
It’s important to note that mood swings in tweens can sometimes resemble signs of depression. If you notice your child exhibiting prolonged sadness or anxiety, don’t hesitate to seek professional support. For more on parenting during these challenging times, visit our other blog post on intracervicalinsemination.com or explore resources on pregnancy and home insemination at CCRM IVF.
In summary, managing tween moodiness can be a delicate balance of compassion and understanding. By staying calm, promoting healthy habits, and listening actively, you can help your child navigate this challenging phase—no wine needed!