Maya Johnson’s commencement speech at Tulane University was a hit, filled with humor and insightful advice. Her impersonation of Oprah — “And you get a diploma!” — and a Beyoncé-inspired rendition of the national anthem captivated the audience. However, the most significant takeaway was her emphasis on the power of saying “Yes, and” instead of “No.” “In improvisation, there’s a fundamental rule known as ‘Yes, and’,” Johnson shared. “If I can offer any advice, it’s to embrace ‘Yes, and’ to shape your own future… And maybe put down your phone every now and then.”
This wisdom resonates, especially for recent graduates navigating life’s early years. For instance, when asked if you want to share an apartment, it could go: “Yes, and I’m claiming the biggest room!” Or when a friend invites you for drinks, you might say, “Yes, and I’ll have a double, please!” Even potentially tricky situations, like having an affair with your boss, could be turned into an opportunity: “Yes, and I’ll start looking for a new job.”
Does “Yes, and” Work in Parenting?
But does this philosophy of “Yes, and” hold up once you settle down and have kids? Let’s explore a few scenarios:
- It’s Sunday evening, and after a full day at the beach with your little ones, they come in asking for a trip to Dairy Queen. Instead of the usual “Absolutely not,” you might opt for, “Yes, and I’ll take a large Brownie Batter Blizzard too!” Now that sounds like a delightful end to the weekend.
- Your teenager, Alex, just got his driver’s license and wants to borrow your car for a study session (wink, wink). Your instinct might be to say “No way,” but instead, try: “Yes, and make sure to pick up some milk and eggs on your way back.” Win-win!
- Finally, during a girls’ night out with fellow moms, a group of guys sends over shots. Instead of declining and worrying about school night rules, let loose and say, “Yes, and we’ll have another round… on them!”
This “Yes, and” approach might just be the breath of fresh air we need as parents.
Resources for Family Planning and Fertility
For those interested in exploring more about family planning and home insemination, check out this resource for insightful tips. If you’re looking for support on your fertility journey, Make a Mom offers valuable information. And for those considering IVF, the NHS provides excellent resources.
Conclusion
In summary, adopting a “Yes, and” mindset can enrich our parenting experiences and open doors to unexpected joys, even amidst the chaos of family life.