In the realm of parenting, I’ve realized that traditional parenting books and my personality don’t quite mesh well. I tend to fixate on the catastrophes that loom for my children if I stray from their advice, but somehow forget the remedies to prevent those disasters. The result? Kids feeling neglected, and me being a bundle of stress. So, when my eldest was about two, I vowed to stop reading those parenting guides.
I’ve only broken that promise a couple of times, primarily to tackle the sibling rivalry issue before it escalated. With some straightforward strategies, I believed I could instill a sense of security in my kids, minimizing their need to compete for my and my partner’s attention. To my surprise, it worked.
My children seem uninterested in battling for the title of Favorite Kid, which is great for their self-esteem. But, I can’t help but wonder if a little healthy competition wouldn’t be a bad thing. For instance, it might be nice if my son cleaned up the mess from his last arts and crafts project to prove he’s the “organized one,” or if my daughter polished off her vegetables to showcase her status as the “healthy eater.”
However, just because they’ve decided not to fight for my affection doesn’t mean the rivalry has vanished. Instead, they find new, rather silly ways to compete. Here are a few examples:
- I Saw It First! The definitions of “saw” and “first” can become quite elastic. “Saw” might mean catching a glimpse from across the room or merely thinking about it in the past. And “first”? It could be as simple as having touched it three months ago. The real ownership seems to be determined by whoever is clinging to the item, regardless of whether they are actually using it.
- Stay Off My Side! Every time we enter or exit the car, it becomes a hilarious battle over which door each child will use. You’d think there was a magical portal on one side and a trap door on the other!
- I’m Gonna Win! This is closely tied to the previous point. My kids will sprint through any obstacle—be it sidewalks, bushes, or seemingly endless hallways—just to arrive at their destination first. They are competing for glory that is, admittedly, not rewarded with my unending admiration.
- It’s Not a Race! This phrase always seems to be uttered by the sibling who’s about to come in second. Curious, isn’t it?
- That’s Mine! The idea that we can’t possibly have two of everything is constantly challenged. Maybe we can? I’m seriously considering getting six sets of those colorful plates from Ikea so everyone can have the same color. The ongoing feud over the orange plate is truly draining.
To clarify, I’m not encouraging my kids to fight for my love; they already have it without any competition. If they want to channel their competitive energy, why not battle over who can whip up the best breakfast in bed for me? Just a thought. Maybe I should mention that my daughter will likely make it first?
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Summary
Sibling rivalry often manifests in quirky and annoying ways, from disputes over who saw a toy first to battles over car doors. While it’s great that my children aren’t vying for my affection, their competitive spirit emerges in humorous yet frustrating forms. As a parent, I find myself navigating these situations with a blend of amusement and exasperation, wishing for a little healthy competition in more productive areas.