As my eldest child, Alex, celebrates the big 2-0, I find myself reflecting on what this milestone means—not just for him but for me as a parent. It feels surreal to think about the years that have flown by. I vividly recall my own 20th birthday, sitting in a college classroom nervously preparing for a Shakespeare exam. Those memories come rushing back, filled with a mix of nostalgia and hope. What adventures awaited me? Would I discover love, build a career, or find a sense of purpose? Those were the days, and I hope Alex cherishes his own journey.
In light of this, I’ve gathered 20 pieces of advice for him, shaped by my own experiences and lessons learned. So here goes, my dear Alex:
- Brew Your Own Coffee: Instead of spending on fancy coffee runs, invest that money. Your future self will thank you.
- Text Signals: If someone isn’t replying to your messages, trust me—they’re not playing hard to get. It’s just a game you don’t need to play.
- Negotiate Your Worth: Don’t hesitate to ask for a higher salary than what’s on the table. If they want you, they’ll find the funds.
- Living Alone is OK: While roommates can be fun, living solo teaches you a lot about yourself. Embrace that time alone; it’s valuable.
- Dance Like No One’s Watching: Whether alone or with friends, dance whenever you can. Turn up the music and let loose—even if it annoys the neighbors for a few minutes.
- Protect Yourself: Always have condoms on hand. Just trust me on this.
- Follow Your Passion Wisely: The phrase “follow your bliss” can be misleading. Instead, seek work that ignites your passion and keeps you engaged.
- Prioritize Rest: Incorporate naps and relaxing baths into your routine. You’ll miss them when life gets busier.
- Bathroom Breaks: My dad used to say never pass up a chance to use a restroom. Always good advice!
- Love Isn’t Always Enough: If someone says “I need more time,” it rarely leads to “I love you.” Know when to move on.
- Cooking is Simpler Than You Think: Try making spaghetti alle vongole. It’s easy and delicious—just remember to wash the clams!
- Beware of White Bread: It’s not your friend. But, if you find yourself in Paris, indulge in the local bread. It’s worth it.
- Trust Your Instincts: Doctors don’t always have all the answers. If something feels off, seek a second opinion or reach out to me!
- Choose Partners Wisely: Take your time when it comes to relationships. Don’t rush into living arrangements out of convenience.
- Travel Early: Don’t wait for retirement to explore the world. Start now, and seek affordable options to fuel your wanderlust.
- Invest in Quality: Buy a few timeless pieces of clothing rather than a bunch of cheap items. Quality lasts longer.
- Life Has No Map: There’s no universal guide to life. You’ll face crossroads often, and it’s up to you to choose your path.
- Find Workarounds: Be resourceful! Toothpicks can fix a shelf, and a peanut butter sandwich can be a meal.
- No Name-Calling: This applies throughout life. If someone disrespects you, speak up.
- Stay in Touch: Remember to call your mom. I’ll always be here for you, and it’s comforting to connect when you’re feeling down.
As you navigate your 20s, these lessons will serve you well. They come from a place of love and experience. Life can be unpredictable, but you’ll find your way.
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In summary, as you embark on this new decade, remember that life is a blend of joy, challenges, and endless learning opportunities. Embrace every experience and cherish the connections you make along the way.