I suppose we didn’t truly “lose” him in the dramatic sense—he wasn’t missing for hours or days. It was more like 40 minutes at the most, though it felt like an eternity as we trudged through riverbeds, small valleys, and over fallen logs, muttering a constant stream of expletives. The group consisted of my wife, our spirited and adventurous 11-year-old, and his somewhat less coordinated 3-year-old brother. If you’ve ever tried to keep kids together while hiking, walking on a beach, or even just navigating your own home, you know it’s a challenge, especially with siblings of such differing ages.
We reached a point that required some climbing, and naturally, the 11-year-old took off first, leaving the rest of us behind. Apparently, there was a communication breakdown: while we said, “Wait for us at the top,” he interpreted that as, “Please venture off on your own into the forest, and take the bag with the water bottles while you’re at it.”
He has a knack for getting lost. To be honest, he has a tendency to wander. His imagination is like a thunderstorm, filled with characters and stories that rarely relate to his immediate surroundings.
Me: “Want some Lucky Charms?”
11-Year-Old: [five-second pause] “Which Wings of Fire dragon has the best armor? The MudWing or IceWing?”
Me: [five-second pause] “So, Frosted Flakes then?”
I’ve had to hunt for him in stores like Target, where he’ll drift off because a T-shirt caught his eye, or at a ballpark, where the scent of hot dogs lures him 500 yards from us. During our beach bike rides, he would pedal farther and farther away until he was just a tiny dot against the sunset. We would make bets on when he would realize we lagged behind. One night, when he was four, he woke up, ventured downstairs, and wandered outside into the Carolina night for about 15 minutes before the police found him. I guess you could say he’s an explorer, and now that I’m writing this, I’m getting a bit anxious. Is this typical behavior? When my 3-year-old is returned by the friendly museum staff, it feels less like, “Thank you for bringing back my sweet boy!” and more like, “Thanks, Edna, how’s your back?”
Now, before I come across as a neglectful parent, let me assure you that once he was lost, my son kept his cool—mostly. He made his way toward the park’s bridge entrance and ranger station, asking directions from families with kids, reasoning they must know the area better. Okay, I may have made up that part about him hanging his snacks to avoid bears.
Despite his occasional scatterbrained moments, I felt relatively confident he could find his way back to the bridge unless he’d stumbled into a ravine or been abducted by a bear. The latter seemed improbable; he’s so skinny he might just qualify as a candy bar. Kids have quirky ways of approaching reality. I’m convinced that if we dropped him in an airport, he could navigate back home to Indiana in no time, maybe even grabbing a Cinnabon for us on the way. But ask him to come downstairs wearing his Little League uniform correctly, and you’re looking at a 50-50 chance of backward pants. Hand him a subway map of New York City, though, and he’d probably figure it out while I’m still fumbling with my phone.
I cherish that spirit of independence; it’s something I value deeply. I encourage it because my upbringing was quite the opposite. My parents viewed the world as a place fraught with dangers—tornado warnings, dodging traffic, and the perils of swimming right after eating. To compensate, I tend to lean toward the opposite extreme. Not, “Feel free to wander a mile ahead on this winding trail,” but a reasonable middle ground. If I’d gotten lost at 11, I’d have frozen in place until someone—be it a ranger or Yogi Bear—found me.
I asked my son how he knew which way to go. “I memorized the map,” he said with a casual tone while I struggled to find a signal on my phone to access the map app.
This is the nature of parenting and the lessons it imparts, lessons I find challenging to grasp because they come with their share of discomfort. “Take it easy,” the park map seemed to whisper while I frantically searched for trails, wondering where he could have gone. “Chill out,” sighed the trees and the gentle breeze (although trees don’t talk—I must have been imagining things). “Hey, watch where you’re going!” a family exclaimed as I slipped by them, splashing mud on their shoes. Apologies, folks.
He was fine. He wasn’t lost for long and was quite aware of what was happening. When my wife found him first, he asked, “Can you stay close?” because he sensed I might lose my cool. But I didn’t. I had a serious talk with him about staying close, took away his gaming privileges for a while, and shared a little joke about the ordeal. Life went on, and I felt more reassured about how he would manage when we weren’t around.
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Summary:
This article captures the humorous yet nerve-wracking experience of a father who briefly loses his son during a hike. It highlights the child’s adventurous spirit and tendency to wander off while underscoring the challenges of parenting. The father reflects on the importance of independence and communication in raising children, ultimately finding humor and reassurance in the chaos of family life.