When my husband goes off on work trips, my two little girls can’t help but share the news with everyone they meet. From the grocery store cashier to fellow parents at the park, they announce, “Daddy’s on vacation… I mean business trip! Hahaha!” My laughter is mixed with a twinge of anxiety.
Letting the world know that their father is away can be a little nerve-wracking, especially with the crazies out there. A quick tip: avoid posting on social media about your partner being away!
I might come off as overly cautious, but that’s just life with a husband who travels. And for any potential intruders reading this: I have security measures in place, including alarms and motion sensors on every entry point. You wouldn’t stand a chance if you tried anything funny!
Okay, maybe I sound a bit paranoid, but with my partner absent for weeks at a time, it’s hard not to feel on edge. I sleep with my security remote beside me, fully aware of the panic button’s location—30 degrees to the right of my fingertips. And yes, I check the stove multiple times before bed, saying “off” like it’s a mantra.
Despite my anxiety, I’ve compiled a list of 20 thoughts that mothers with traveling partners often have when they’re holding down the fort alone:
- He’s dining at upscale restaurants and sipping sophisticated cocktails, while I’m snacking on leftover kid’s food and discussing the latest episode of a children’s show.
- He’s exploring exciting new cities, while I’m stuck at Chuck E. Cheese for what feels like the hundredth time. If he sends me a selfie at a landmark, I might just lose it.
- He’s sleeping soundly on comfy hotel pillows while I’m wedged between two little ones who wake up every hour with nightmares.
- I can’t help but wonder if he’s being unfaithful. Probably not, but the thought crosses my mind.
- Weekend outings to the park are torturous, filled with happy families. Must avoid parks at all costs.
- I strategically place his shoes at the door to give the illusion that someone is home.
- Is my alarm system functioning properly? I should probably test it.
- What activities can I find to keep the kids occupied? An art class lasts an hour, but a playdate with that family down the street could stretch to three. Desperate times call for desperate measures.
- Stocking up on batteries for my vibrator is a must.
- I’m surrounded by my kids all day, yet loneliness creeps in.
- Please don’t call me, babe. You sound cool and collected, while I’m losing my mind over here.
- I need a break from bedtime stories. A vacation sounds delightful right about now.
- Walking slowly down the stairs is crucial—if I fall, my kids are left without a guardian.
- I need to teach my kids how to use the phone to dial 9-1-1.
- Chewing carefully is essential; I can’t afford to choke while solely responsible for the kids.
- I should limit my wine intake. Just two glasses should suffice.
- Can marijuana be classified as medicinal for mothers? It should be.
- Dinner? Not happening. Frozen pizzas and Kraft Mac & Cheese are gourmet options tonight.
- I hope he brings me a great souvenir or even a day off from parenting when he returns.
- So, when’s your next business trip? You’ve only been home for two days—seriously, when’s your flight? I can drop you off.
Navigating life with a traveling partner is no easy feat. It can be lonely and exhausting, which is why support networks exist. Finding creative ways to stay connected with your spouse (think fun video chats) and encouraging your kids to communicate with dad can help bridge the gap. Remember, the saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder” rings true, and when all else fails, there’s always wine, chocolate, and reality TV to help ease the stress.
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In summary, managing the ups and downs of parenting solo can be challenging, but with a bit of humor and some strategic planning, it’s definitely doable!