Getting ready to tie the knot? Why bother with the traditional bridal shower when you could just send out cards asking for cash? A recent Reddit post showcased an invitation for a “silent bridal shower,” which is apparently a new trend. Traditionally, bridal showers were intimate gatherings filled with sandwiches and laughter, but not anymore, as this invitation illustrates:
“Join us for a Silent Shower! No party, no guests, no bride, and no wrapped presents. Just purchase a shower greeting card, include a check made out to [Name], and send it in the enclosed addressed envelope. All envelopes will be collected and sent to the happy couple.”
The notion of asking for a check in the mail feels far from celebratory—more like asking for payment on a bill. While there’s a mutual understanding that wedding attendees will typically give gifts, it’s implied rather than explicitly stated. It’s an unwritten social norm that shouldn’t be overlooked. For years, we’ve pretended these showers are festive occasions—let’s keep it that way!
If you’re inviting guests to your wedding, they already know you anticipate gifts. No need to lay it out so plainly. Weddings can be incredibly costly not just for the couple but for everyone involved. Many couples invest significant amounts into their special day, which has led to a sense of entitlement regarding gifts or financial gifts.
Actually sending a letter instructing guests to “send checks here” feels strange. It conveys the message, “I can’t be bothered to organize a bridal shower or set up a registry, but I’m still expecting your cash.”
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Conclusion
In summary, while the concept of a silent bridal shower may seem practical to some, it strips away the spirit of celebration and community that traditional bridal showers embody. Instead of directly asking for gifts, let’s cherish the joy of gathering and sharing experiences.