Dear Sweetheart,
I figured it was time to jot down some thoughts for you. Time keeps moving, and while you’re not here yet, I think about you often. I hope these insights guide you through life, whenever that may be!
Life Lessons
Start by reading A Tree Grows In Brooklyn. It’s a classic. Treat yourself to solo dates—they’re empowering! Find a passion that’s uniquely yours. Embrace boldness; it’s a beautiful trait. Never underestimate the intimacy of holding hands. Share your favorite book or album; good art deserves an audience.
Love and Relationships
Explore new music; attend a concert of a band you’ve never heard of. Fall in love often, but protect your heart; love is a beautiful contradiction. Discover the right bra for you—it makes a difference. Resist the urge to drive by his house; it’s rarely worth it.
Self-Discovery
Identify something about yourself that you truly cherish. A road trip can sometimes be the best remedy. When shopping, flip your cards so cashiers can scan them easily—an invaluable tip I learned from your Grandma Susan.
Be wary of girls without girlfriends; they might not have your best interests at heart. Savor every first experience you encounter. Celebrate your achievements, even if they don’t align with your friends’. Trust is essential; find it in something and someone.
Personal Growth
Learn the art of saying “No.” And absolutely no cats—trust me on this one! Find a lipstick that expresses what you struggle to voice. Perfect your napping technique; it’s an underrated skill.
Your story is uniquely yours, so tell it authentically. You’re always more beautiful than you perceive. You might run into him again—just a heads up. Write letters; they carry a personal touch. Patience is a virtue—one I learned from Grandma Susan, and I might name you after her.
Friendships and Connections
Seek a travel buddy who complements your spirit. Embrace your scars; they tell the story of your journey. Avoid sending one more text when it’s not needed. Always dry your hair completely; it matters.
When it comes to gynecologists, choose a female. Learn to be comfortable alone; it’s a valuable skill. If you travel abroad, master phrases like, “Where’s the bathroom?” and “That’s too much.” Accept that some friendships are fleeting.
Embracing Life
Love can be messy and chaotic—embrace it, always. Allow your children to experience camp. When lifting, remember to bend your knees! Treat yourself to fresh tulips; placing a penny in the vase keeps them standing tall.
Find a go-to movie for those restless nights. Maintain your body and your car; both deserve care. Always have an exit plan and a place to cry if needed. Treasure the laughter of friends, especially on the other end of the phone.
And please, don’t drive by his house—don’t do it! Bangs will grow out, and shoes will always fit. Gin can lead to trouble, so tread carefully. Learn every lyric to a song that resonates with you; I suggest “Thunder Road” by Bruce Springsteen, but I might name you after him, who knows?
Preparation and Wisdom
Pack more medication than days away—better safe than sorry. Honor intentions; execution may falter, but the effort deserves respect. Learn to make my Grandma’s kugel; it’s best the next day.
Engage with strangers; you never know when a friendship might spark. Practice gratitude by simply saying, “Thank you” when receiving compliments. Watch Friday Night Lights—it’s a classic.
Listen when people share their perceptions of you; even if they’re off-base, it reflects how you present yourself. Keep a friend around for tough love, and find that one friend who shows up without questions when you need help.
Final Thoughts
Never apologize for who you are—only for how you express it. Discover your unique superpower. When uncertain, hold back. Always remember, someone out there misses you. Get to know your best friend’s handwriting; it’s a special bond.
If you must drive by his house, do it discreetly—lights off, windows up, radio off, preferably in a borrowed car. And for goodness sake, duck down!
With all my love,
Mom
P.S. For further insights on fertility and pregnancy, check out this excellent resource on Medical News Today. And if you’re looking for ways to boost fertility, visit Make a Mom.
Summary
This heartfelt letter offers a collection of life lessons and advice for a daughter who may never exist, covering topics from self-love and relationships to practical tips for navigating adulthood. The wisdom shared comes from personal experiences and reflections, aiming to equip her with the knowledge needed to thrive.