A couple of summers back, I spent time traveling across the East Coast, exploring colleges with my son, who was about to enter his senior year. This year, I’m thrilled to do the same with my daughter. College tours are not only vital for students to understand what they want in a school, but they also provide invaluable experiences for us parents. Here are five benefits I’ve discovered along the way:
1. Embracing a Calm Perspective
As someone who excelled academically and attended a prestigious university, I’ve learned that true success is more about personal growth than the name of one’s school. While I wish for the best for my children, I recognize that their happiness and well-being matter far more than any rankings. Joining other parents on these tours, I notice their palpable anxiety and loaded questions. Meanwhile, I find myself happily relaxed, appreciating that my kids will forge their own paths in life.
2. Rediscovering Myself
With four kids ranging from 6 to 19, life has often felt like a whirlwind. Amid the hustle, I’ve lost touch with my own interests. College tours offer me a chance to step back and reflect on who I am outside of being a parent. Exploring art studios with my son, I discovered my own artistic longings while pondering whether I wanted to immerse myself in creativity again. These trips remind me to carve out time for what I love, allowing me to reconnect with my passions.
3. A Taste of the Good Life
While college tours may not resemble a luxurious getaway, the change of scenery and experiences are refreshing. I appreciate the variety of hotels and eateries we encounter. There’s something satisfying about saying, “Where should we dine tonight?” after a long drive. Although trudging along the Pennsylvania Turnpike isn’t first-class travel, I learn to enjoy the journey, especially with my teenager spinning tunes to keep the atmosphere lively.
4. Bonding with My Kids
My teenagers often retreat into their own worlds, spending time with friends or isolated in their rooms. However, the college tour creates an opportunity for meaningful connection. Long drives provide the perfect setting for heartfelt conversations, allowing us to share stories and memories. I treasure these moments of togetherness, even stealing a cuddle on the couch while watching our favorite shows. It’s a delightful way to re-establish bonds as they prepare for their next big adventure.
5. Practicing Letting Go
The college tour serves as a gentle reminder that it’s time to step back. I’ve already experienced college life; now it’s my child’s turn to explore and make decisions. I find it essential to let them form their own opinions and ask their own questions without my influence. It’s rewarding to witness their reactions and choices, like the moment my daughter whispered during an info session, “We can skip the tour,” to which I happily agreed. More time for what truly matters—enjoying dinner and quality time together.
In conclusion, college tours are not just about finding the right school; they are also an opportunity for parents to reflect, connect, and cherish the moments with their children. As they embark on this exciting journey, I can focus on nurturing my own interests while supporting them as they take their first steps toward independence. For more insights on family planning and support, check out this excellent resource on pregnancy and home insemination at UCSF’s Center. And if you’re interested in learning more about at-home insemination, Make a Mom has great information on insemination kits. For further tips, visit our blog.