The milestone of turning 40 has been something I’ve anticipated my entire life. It felt like a distant destination, a glowing light on the horizon, waiting for me to arrive. People who’ve reached this age often say things like “it’s all downhill from here” or “40 isn’t so bad,” and they hint at the inevitable “someday” that would eventually be my reality.
In my childhood, 40 was simply a birthday celebrated with black carnations and “Over The Hill” gifts for my dad. In my teenage years, it seemed impossible—I could never be that old! It was a lifetime away. As I entered my 20s, 40 still felt like a far-off dream, something that Sally from When Harry Met Sally would lament about. Eight years seemed like an eternity, right Harry?
But then my 30s rolled in, and suddenly, 40 was no longer an abstract concept; it stood like a watchful guardian, hinting at the “Over the Hill” gifts that awaited me. And now, here I am, staring down the barrel of the Big 4-0.
It’s shocking to realize that “someday” has arrived. I’m not quite sure what I expected, but it’s a mix of fear and excitement, and yes, thighs I don’t quite recognize anymore. Yet, somehow, it’s better than I anticipated.
My experience of 40 includes:
- Surrounding myself with friends who uplift and support me, and letting go of those who drain my energy.
- Facing the reality of annual mammograms that are, quite frankly, painful.
- Speaking my truth with a confidence that eluded me in my 20s. I’m officially a grown-up now!
- Mourning the loss of loved ones who shaped my journey.
- Embracing my body, flaws and all, while navigating through life.
- Witnessing friends go through tough times in their marriages, while also celebrating those who find their way back to each other.
- Being married to a partner who understands my quirks and chooses to stay.
- Laughing about how Common Core math is beyond my comprehension (and not losing sleep over it).
- Listening to ’80s tunes and realizing that “Hangin’ Tough” was never as tough as it seemed.
- Preparing my kids for their independence, while hoping I can manage to let go when the time comes.
- Venturing into a new writing career with excitement.
- Investing in my children’s future with braces, glasses, and college funds.
- Learning to say no without feeling guilty.
- Feeling grateful that my health allows me to run marathons.
- Choosing the good wine over the cheap stuff.
- Accepting that I might not have cherished every moment with my children, but committing to savor every second moving forward. I know how quickly time flies.
- Realizing that “Bucket List” isn’t just a phrase; it’s a call to action. Paris and the pyramids are waiting for me!
- Ending each day with gratitude for the life I’m living.
As I approach this significant birthday, I’m filled with a whirlwind of emotions—anxious, nervous, excited. I’m astonished at how quickly I’ve reached this point, and I hope the next 40 years unfold at a pace I can enjoy. When I blow out my candles, I’ll make wishes and set intentions for my future. After all, 50 is on the horizon, beckoning me.
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In summary, turning 40 is a blend of nostalgia, reflection, and newfound confidence. Embracing this age means celebrating friendships, facing challenges, and looking forward to what’s next.