Let’s be honest—co-sleeping isn’t for everyone. I’ve shared my bed with each of my children during their early months, especially while nursing. It was convenient; I could effortlessly feed my baby without leaving the comfort of my sheets. But as soon as I no longer had to nurse, I craved my own space back.
Once my children reached around three months old, we transitioned them into their own cribs. Surprisingly, it wasn’t a tough switch. In fact, everyone seemed to sleep better afterward! Now, our three-year-old has her own queen-sized bed. We still enjoy storytime and comfort her through nightmares, but on our own terms. Once she drifts off, we sneak back to our own room.
Why I Can’t Handle Co-Sleeping Anymore
So why can’t I handle co-sleeping anymore? For starters, it’s all about space. As a work-from-home mom, I’m constantly surrounded by little hands and sticky fingers. Sometimes, I just need a moment to myself, a little sanctuary where I can relax without worrying about someone needing me or a spontaneous diaper change.
Then there’s safety. Co-sleeping can be safe if done correctly, but once babies outgrow their swaddled phase, they can become surprisingly mobile. I’ve experienced waking up to an elbow in my face or a tiny body sprawled across my chest. It’s not quite the restful sleep I hope for!
The Impact on Intimacy
And let’s talk about intimacy. During those three months of co-sleeping, we were in recovery mode, so it wasn’t an issue. But parents who co-sleep often talk about finding “creative” ways to reconnect. I’m not sure how they manage that when there’s always a little one nearby. The only time we find peace is when they’re sound asleep behind closed doors.
My bed is my personal refuge in a world where everything belongs to my kids. It’s where I enjoy quiet time, read, or watch what I want without cartoons blaring in the background. Given the limited sleep I get, the quality of my rest is essential. If I’m constantly being poked or prodded, I can’t expect to function well the next day.
Finding What Works for Your Family
Of course, every family should choose what works best for them. But for those who choose co-sleeping, perhaps consider investing in a bigger bed for your little ones. Sharing a bed can mean sacrificing personal space, safety, intimacy, and quality sleep. That’s just not for me!
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In summary, co-sleeping can be a wonderful choice for some, but it’s not for everyone. Finding what works best for your family is key, whether that means sharing a bed or creating your own space.