So, what’s behind the happiness of Dutch kids? Here are some key insights that could inspire us all.
1. Family Comes First
In the Netherlands, family time is prioritized. Dutch children often enjoy dinner with their parents at a typical time of 6 p.m., fostering strong family bonds. Many fathers utilize a ‘papa dag’ (dad day), a legally sanctioned day off work to care for their children. In contrast to my experiences back in the States, where I could count the number of fathers at school pickup on one hand, here in the Netherlands, nearly half of the pickup crowd consists of dads. With parents balancing work and family life seamlessly—thanks in part to Dutch women leading in part-time work among OECD countries—families thrive in a relaxed atmosphere, which naturally benefits the kids.
2. A Relaxed Approach to Parenting
The Dutch have a remarkably laid-back attitude when it comes to parenting. Helicopter parenting is virtually nonexistent, as parents view their children as individuals rather than extensions of themselves. There’s little stress regarding their children’s accomplishments; instead, parents acknowledge their kids’ unique strengths without imposing unrealistic expectations. Freedom to explore and set their own limits is encouraged, allowing neighborhood kids to play outside unsupervised after school. I’ve noticed that I’m often the only parent shuttling my kids back and forth to the house—my clever Dutch neighbors have rigged a string through their letterbox that lets kids come and go freely. With no homework for children under 10, there’s plenty of time to enjoy outdoor activities, like kicking a football around.
3. The Joy of Cycling
In the Netherlands, cycling is a way of life, thanks to extensive bike paths and a culture that emphasizes safety for cyclists. Children around the age of 10 gain the independence to ride their bikes to school, visit friends, or attend weekend sports. This freedom helps build their confidence and keeps them physically active—it’s no wonder they’re happy!
4. Children’s Voices Matter
Upon arriving in the Netherlands and enrolling my kids in a local school, I assumed I would handle playdate arrangements. However, I quickly learned that Dutch parents often consult their children first. Asking a 4-year-old how they feel about a playdate was a refreshing change, and I’ve since adopted this practice. Dutch parents genuinely listen to their children, fostering self-assured teenagers who feel confident in expressing themselves and their opinions.
5. Delicious Breakfast Treats
After living in the Netherlands for six years, my children feel quite Dutch—though they still believe their breakfast routine is lacking. While I stick to cereal and fruit, Dutch kids indulge in hagelslag—chocolate sprinkles sprinkled on buttered white bread. With such a delightful start to the day, it’s no wonder they’re among the happiest kids around!
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Summary:
Dutch children enjoy a unique upbringing characterized by family time, relaxed parenting, freedom to explore, consideration of their opinions, and delightful breakfast treats. These aspects contribute to their happiness, offering valuable lessons for parents everywhere.