In my household, it often feels like I play second fiddle to my husband, Jake, who has earned the title of “Fun Dad.” He’s the one who gets all the giggles and chaos going with tickles, wrestling, and impromptu ball games, while I’m left to pick up the pieces—literally and figuratively—after their latest escapade, like the shattered vase that now needs replacing.
I’ve even taken to calling him “Daddy Funtime” with a hint of sarcasm, trying to emphasize just how unfair this situation feels. “It’s not right!” I protest. “I’m the one managing meals, playdates, appointments, and keeping the household running smoothly while you swoop in with your silly antics.” He just chuckles and retorts, dubbing me “The Drill Sergeant.”
This used to make me defensive. I would channel my inner Jack Nicholson, passionately reminding him that I’m the one who lays down the groundwork for our family’s well-being. “You need me on this wall,” I’d declare, “and I have no time to justify my role to someone who gets to play under the very structure I uphold.”
But then something struck me while I was again instructing the kids to tidy up after dinner; Jake casually remarked, “This is what they’ll remember about you—just barking orders.” Ouch. Was that really how they’d see me? If so, what a bummer.
It’s not like I don’t engage in enjoyable activities with my kids. I surprise them with outings, take them to movies, and even created a birthday scavenger hunt recently that thrilled my oldest. Yet, all the daily responsibilities I juggle seem to overshadow those joyful experiences. “I’m just as fun as any other mom!” I tell myself. Or am I?
Recently, a younger mom I know, Lisa, shared her exciting plans for the last day of school. She was ready to unleash a barrage of fun with silly string for the fifth graders and water balloons for the younger ones. “Wow, that sounds amazing!” I said, genuinely impressed, but also feeling a twinge of envy at her boundless energy. Between work and daily chaos, I can barely think about what to make for dinner.
When I confided in my friend, Mia, about my struggle to come up with fun ideas, she agreed. “I wish I could think of things like that,” she said. “But I’m already juggling so many responsibilities; those extra moments feel out of reach.” I echoed her sentiments, feeling overwhelmed by the Pinterest-perfect suggestions that only deepen my sense of inadequacy.
Instead of planning extravagant send-offs for my kids at school, I figured I’d just be there on time to pick them up. Maybe I’d even lend a hand if they were struggling with their backpacks.
Then, Lisa texted me with an invitation: “MEET US AT THE FIELD ON THE SIDE OF THE SCHOOL. BRING WATER GUNS!”
Water guns? That sounded manageable—much easier than filling and tying a hundred water balloons. So, I decided to embrace a little fun. When the bell rang and my twins came rushing out, I made a quick excuse about parking far away and led them to the field.
What followed was a colorful water balloon fight that filled the air with laughter and excitement. It was a blast! It turns out, all I needed was a little shift in my perspective.
As summer break kicks off, I’m determined to maintain that fun momentum, despite the chores and the occasional sibling squabbles. Every day doesn’t have to be a grand adventure, but I realize I’ve been taking motherhood a tad too seriously. It’s time to lighten up!
Maybe by infusing some spontaneity and laughter into our days, my kids will start to see me as “Mommy Funtime.” After all, half of perception is all about how you market yourself.
And if that means the house becomes a bit chaotic or we indulge in ice cream for dinner now and then, so be it! The kids won’t mind, and neither will Jake. Honestly, domestic duties can be draining, so I might just need one of those adorable signs I’ve seen online: “Please excuse the mess; we’re busy making memories.”
Much more delightful than the vacuum cleaner I received for Mother’s Day!
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Summary:
In this lighthearted exploration of motherhood, Sara reflects on her role as the less “fun” parent compared to her husband, Jake. Through a series of amusing anecdotes and self-discovery, she realizes that she can embrace spontaneity and joy in her parenting style. By shifting her perspective, she aims to balance her responsibilities with fun and laughter, ensuring her children see her as a playful and engaging mom.