A Letter to My Growing Daughters

Dear Amazing Daughters,

Life with you three has been quite the adventure lately. Honestly, it often feels like an emotional roller coaster! One moment, I’m beaming with joy as you hold my hand while we stroll through the grocery store, and the next, my heart sinks as you push me away. I cherish those sweet moments when you cuddle up next to me on the couch, sharing the ups and downs of your day. Then, just like that, I watch you dash out the door with your friends, looking like a group ready for a night out.

I’ve come to realize that not all the stereotypes about tween girls hold true. It’s not all challenging, although I certainly didn’t expect the tears that flowed when I asked you to change your outfit for dinner one night. Or the eye rolls that accompany my requests for you to tidy your rooms. And “fine”? Well, that word has taken on a whole new tone these days.

I totally understand how you feel—I was once a tween, too. Back in the days when dinosaurs roamed the earth (yes, I’m that old!), I wished to be treated like an adult while still wanting my mom’s comfort. I get it.

But here’s the deal: we need to set some expectations for the coming years, especially since puberty is knocking at your door and I may be dealing with my own midlife changes.

Expect Some Embarrassment

First off, be prepared for some embarrassment. You can count on me to do the Running Man at your school events and rock my fabulous ’70s wig at Halloween. I’ll sing along to those catchy Teen Beach Movie tunes you’ve made me endure with your friends, and I’ll insist on taking first-day-of-school photos until you have a doctorate. You’re stuck with a long line of embarrassing parents, and you will survive it!

Open Discussions

We also need to have some frank discussions about the “awkward” topics—love, body changes, and everything in between. I know it might feel uncomfortable, but it’s crucial for you to have the right information to make wise choices. It takes bravery to try new things, but it takes even more courage to recognize when you’re not ready for something.

I promise not to dismiss your feelings. I know it may seem trivial to me when asking you to shower sparks an emotional response, but I recognize that your feelings are very real. I’ll strive to listen rather than just offer my opinions. I will be selective about my battles, so when I do raise an issue, you will know it’s important.

Digital Privacy

Digital privacy is something you’ll have to earn in our house. You’re smart, and I trust you, but the Internet and technology can be tricky places. We’ll navigate these waters together.

Independence and Space

I understand that you need your own space. It’s a bit hard for me to accept that I’m not the center of your universe anymore, but I know you need that time to explore your independence. Just a little reminder: please don’t slam the door; we’ll be just fine!

Friendships and Challenges

I’ll do my best not to interfere with your friendships. I love seeing you put yourself out there, but it pains me when you hurt. I have that instinct to protect you, but I know you need to learn to navigate your own challenges. I’ll always be here to support you, even if I let you stumble so you can learn to rise again.

Respecting Choices

There will be moments when you won’t like me. I know it’s tough when you feel you’re not getting the same freedoms as your peers. It’s equally challenging for me to be the parent who says no when others say yes. You’re in a phase of life where you’re playing checkers—making choices on the fly. I’m playing chess, aware that every decision can significantly shape your future. You may not see it now, but I hope you’ll come to respect my choices for you down the road.

Most importantly, I’ll always believe in you. We all deserve a little grace, especially when hormones are in play!

Resources for Further Learning

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With all my love,
Your Proud Mom

Summary

In this heartfelt letter, a mother shares her experiences and feelings with her three tween daughters as they navigate the challenges of growing up. She expresses her understanding of their emotional ups and downs, discusses the importance of open communication about sensitive topics, and emphasizes the need for boundaries and independence. The mother reassures her daughters of her unwavering support while also setting expectations for their evolving relationship.