My fashion choices during my teenage years weren’t about lacking individuality or being overly concerned with trends. Instead, I wanted to fly under the radar. I instinctively believed that blending in was crucial for my social safety. While I sought the spotlight for my involvement in drama and music, when it came to clothes, I preferred to mirror what everyone else wore. If I looked like the rest of my peers, that was a win in my book.
Interestingly, my instinct to blend in might not have been misguided. A recent study in the journal Psychological Science suggests that adolescents who align with their peers may enjoy better health as adults, as highlighted by journalist Sam Reed at Pacific Standard. Researchers from the University of Virginia followed teenagers from ages 13 to 17, asking them about their same-sex friendships and their tendencies to conform to peer norms. Years later, they checked in with these individuals at ages 25, 26, and 27, gathering insights into their physical and emotional health.
The findings revealed that those who had strong friendships and demonstrated a willingness to conform to social norms during adolescence reported better health outcomes. It seems that this inclination to fit in may be an instinctive behavior that supports overall well-being. As Reed notes, “The strong adolescent focus on peer relationships likely stems from a deep-seated understanding that these connections contribute to one’s health.”
I used to feel a bit out of place for not standing out more during my middle and high school years. I was part of a close-knit group of fellow drama enthusiasts, which itself had its own social expectations. Reed’s article aligns with findings from another study indicating that teenage fans of 1980s heavy metal music often grew into happy, thriving adults. They found camaraderie and support within their subculture by conforming to their peers.
This suggests that there are genuine benefits to fitting in with one’s peers. While I’d love to encourage my sons to be independent thinkers, the reality is that we are social creatures. Even as adults, we adhere to social norms—showing up in jeans at a black-tie event is rarely a good idea, regardless of how unique we aim to be.
For both teens and adults, the true concern lies in social isolation. Reed points out, “Adolescence is a critical time for exploring individual talents and interests. However, this research indicates that parents who push too hard for uniqueness might inadvertently expose their children to future health risks.”
So, I won’t fret if my son wants to wear the same outfits as his classmates or seems inclined to “go along to get along,” as long as he maintains his moral compass. Building strong friendships within his peer group is beneficial, even if it means a shopping trip to the mall.
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Summary
Embracing conformity during adolescence can have positive effects on health and well-being in adulthood. While it’s important for teens to explore their individuality, forming strong friendships within their peer groups can provide essential social support. Parents should recognize the benefits of fitting in, as it can lead to happier, healthier futures for their children.