Today marks our ninth wedding anniversary. Living in a city like Los Angeles, where relationships can often seem as transient as a summer fling, reaching this milestone feels quite remarkable. However, instead of grand plans, we find ourselves without a single celebration in sight. To highlight the amusing contrasts between commemorating your anniversary pre- and post-parenthood, I’ve compiled a little list.
Before Kids:
In the weeks leading up to your anniversary, you excitedly discuss plans for celebrating your love.
After Kids:
You have completely lost track of time and suddenly realize your anniversary is tomorrow while scheduling a dentist appointment for your child on iCal.
Before Kids:
You fondly recall your wedding day, flipping through your album and sharing laughs and tears over those cherished memories.
After Kids:
Your wedding album is likely buried in a box somewhere, possibly having been donated in a fit of decluttering. If you somehow manage to find it, any attempt to reminisce is quickly interrupted by the sound of an applesauce pouch exploding on your treasured photo.
Before Kids:
You plan a romantic evening filled with cocktails and an extravagant nine-course dinner at a trendy restaurant, making the reservation weeks in advance.
After Kids:
With just 24 hours’ notice, you scramble to secure a babysitter. After several attempts, you find someone who can only stay until 9 p.m. You have no clue about the latest hot spots and settle for any restaurant that serves alcohol and has availability.
Before Kids:
You take the time to get ready, complete with a new outfit, manicured nails, and a carefully scheduled hair appointment.
After Kids:
If you’re lucky, you might manage a quick shower during your children’s nap time. A pedicure? That’s a distant memory. You’ll likely end up in something that barely fits and is somewhat clean.
Before Kids:
You enjoy a leisurely four-hour meal, savoring each moment and perhaps getting a little tipsy, leading to an unforgettable night.
After Kids:
You rush through your meal to make it back for the babysitter’s early departure. A couple of glasses of wine later, you might be tipsy enough to feel a little dizzy on the ride home, and any intimacy is brief, often overshadowed by exhaustion.
Through these contrasts, it’s clear that the essence of your relationship evolves, but the love remains steadfast. For more insights into parenting and navigating life changes, check out this piece from our other blog. And if you’re looking to boost your fertility, consider visiting this resource that’s well-regarded in the field. Another excellent reference for anyone interested in pregnancy and home insemination is this link.
In summary, while the way you celebrate your wedding anniversary may change dramatically after having kids, the love and commitment that brought you together remain at the heart of your relationship.