Reflecting on my childhood friendships, I realize I’ve always been more comfortable around guys. As a little girl, I found myself playing with boys, earning a collection of scrapes, cat scratches (note: cats are not fond of water), and the occasional busted lip. While I’m no longer in touch with my childhood buddy, Fishy (yes, that was really his name), I’ve forged connections with a mix of dudes and, gasp, women over the years. Unlike those carefree days, adult friendships require a bit of effort, which is why scheduling friend dates is now a vital part of my routine.
Have you ever felt that your friends are drifting away or noticed that when you finally meet, one of you tends to dominate the conversation? This often happens because text messages, tweets, and social media interactions just don’t cut it in nurturing those relationships. Friendships are like any other connection; they need a little TLC to prevent stagnation. Ensuring that everyone feels valued and has fun together is key.
When children come into the picture, maintaining friendships can become even trickier. Between juggling schedules, childcare, and curfews, adulting is far from the late-night hangouts of our pre-parenthood days. Planning a get-together can feel overwhelming, but the payoff is immense. Friends can be a second family, ready to support you when life gets tough.
I’ve been guilty of letting friendships slide in the past, and it’s a hard lesson learned. Once a friendship fades, it’s never quite the same again. So how do you keep those bonds strong in the midst of busy lives? Sure, work, parenting, and household chores like dishes and laundry can consume all your time (unless, like me, you’ve hired someone to tackle the yard work). But making time for friendships is crucial. Your friends might understand when you need to skip out, but there will be times when they truly need you—and you’ll want to be there for them.
Planning a night out might take some coordination, but it’s worth every bit of effort. It’s an opportunity to unwind and reconnect with your true self, separate from the roles of mom or wife. That feeling of liberation can lift a mountain of stress off your shoulders. Taking time for yourself doesn’t mean you love your family any less; it simply acknowledges that you’re human and need a break to recharge. Enjoying sushi, drinks, or even just coffee while catching up can be incredibly refreshing.
Plus, maintaining this network of friends becomes invaluable—they’ll be there for you when you need them, and believe me, there will be times when you do. Yes, I might feel exhausted after a long day, followed by bathing my son and putting him to bed after a fun dinner with friends. But the joy and laughter I share with them make it all worthwhile. Whether it’s grabbing a bite or chatting over a margarita, laughter truly can heal everything from sore feet to a weary spirit.
Whatever you choose to do, ensure you’re fully present. Investing in your friendships is essential for their longevity. If divorce has taught me anything, it’s the importance of nurturing relationships. Think of me as a more stylish version of Dr. Joyce—no credit card required!
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In summary, making time for friendships amidst the chaos of life is not just beneficial—it’s essential. These connections help us recharge and ultimately make us better parents.