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Vasectomy Time! by Jamie Lee Parker

Updated: July 15, 2021

Originally Published: September 9, 2015

In the realm of parenthood, I firmly believe that mothers and fathers are ideally equal partners. However, the reality often tells a different story. True equality in parenting happens when both parents engage fully, from diaper changes to those all-important discussions about life. Child-rearing should be a joint venture, but when it comes to conception and pregnancy, the bulk of the responsibility falls on moms.

My Journey of Creating or Preventing Babies

Here’s a glimpse into my journey:

• 3 C-sections
• 1 uterine septum repair
• Managing PCOS
• Birth control pills
• Mirena IUD
• Clomid treatment
• Surviving preeclampsia
• Injecting blood thinners while pregnant

My Husband’s Contributions

Now, let’s consider my husband’s contributions:

• Provided sperm
• Occasionally withheld sperm

That’s just how it is, right? But here’s my plan now. I’ve made an appointment to have my IUD removed, and I intend for my husband to get a vasectomy. After all, I’ve earned it.

I’m done with the endless adjustments to my body. No more tears from hormonal changes or frustration from IUD placement. I’ve been through the wringer; my uterus has endured so much that it feels more like a bionic organ—except without the cool sound effects that come with Jaime Sommers’ adventures. How amazing would it be if my uterus could hear everything?

What I mean is, if my uterus were a soldier, it would be a battle-hardened veteran. If my reproductive history were a story, it would be a wild, chaotic novel. Meanwhile, my husband’s vas deferens are as pristine as can be (and yes, it’s fun to say—vas deferens, vas deferens!).

But that’s about to change. I want him to meet with a urologist while I stock up on frozen peas. I’ll remind him of my three major surgeries and years of hormonal treatments, all in the pursuit of either making babies or avoiding them. I’ve reached my limit on being cut open and stitched back together.

This isn’t a complaint about womanhood; I don’t blame my husband for not having a uterus. I understand that biology isn’t fair. However, after years of hardship, I believe it’s time for a change. I’ve heard countless stories from friends and even strangers online about how getting off hormonal treatment improved their mental health, normalized their cycles, and even revived their sex drives.

I’ve made up my mind. I’m ready to schedule that vasectomy for this fall! And I promise, my body will forever be grateful for it.

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This article was originally published on September 9, 2015.

Summary

This piece explores the unequal responsibilities of motherhood compared to fatherhood in the context of child-rearing. The author reflects on her extensive experiences with surgeries and hormonal treatments while advocating for her husband to undergo a vasectomy, emphasizing her desire for equality in their parenting journey. The article also touches on personal anecdotes and insights from others about the effects of hormonal treatments on their health.