By: Sarah Thompson
Updated: Sep. 10, 2015
Originally Published: Sep. 10, 2015
After five wonderful years at home with my kids, I decided it was time to re-enter the workforce. While it was an exciting transition, it also added a new layer of complexity to our lives. The first few weeks—or even months—were filled with stress, primarily due to organizational hurdles. Here are eight mistakes I made when I went back to work:
1. I Micromanaged the Babysitter
During my first month back at work, I constantly received messages from the babysitter about what activities to plan for my two boys. I would coordinate playdates, relay information from other parents, and even text her what to prepare for lunch. It was utterly chaotic. Finally, I decided to hand over all the necessary contact information and left a drawer stocked with cash for groceries and fun outings. Almost instantly, our household felt more relaxed.
2. I Didn’t Trust My Husband
Since I start work earlier than my partner, he takes charge of the kids in the morning. After five years of handling their routines, I found it hard not to interfere. Sometimes he’d make breakfast choices that I wouldn’t have, or dress the kids in mismatched outfits. A few late arrivals to work helped me learn to let go and just leave the house. Now, if the 2-year-old is in oversized shorts, I don’t stress—after all, it’s not the end of the world.
3. I Neglected to Enjoy Lunch
A friend advised me that lunch is often the only peaceful moment in a working adult’s day. Yet, I would either pack uninspired meals or splurge on pricey sandwiches that didn’t satisfy me. Now, I prioritize my lunch choice, which has become a delightful highlight of my day.
4. I Didn’t Inquire About Flexibility
Most workplaces come with their own “office culture,” meaning hours can vary widely. When I first returned to work, I didn’t think to ask about flexible hours or remote work options, resulting in me trying to fit my family life into a rigid 9-to-5 schedule. Now, I always ask my supervisor about the possibility of adjusting my hours or working from home, and more often than not, they’re open to it.
5. I Didn’t Prioritize Self-Care
I enjoy exercising; it’s one of the few times I can be alone and it also lifts my spirits. However, whenever family life got hectic, my workout routine was the first thing to go. I’ve realized that I must make time for myself, or else everything starts to unravel. I don’t want to feel like a worn-out pack horse scrambling to catch up.
6. I Tried to Cook Every Night
The myth of 20-minute meals is one I fell for. I soon discovered that it takes me about an hour from the time I get home to serve a home-cooked dinner. The kids would become restless while I tried to whip up something from scratch. Now, I cook larger batches on weekends and rely on pre-prepared meals and takeout when necessary. Some nights, a simple can of lentil soup with buttered toast is the best I can do, and that’s perfectly acceptable.
7. I Didn’t Prepare My Bag the Night Before
I know I should have learned this in middle school, yet I found myself scrambling each morning. I’d search the house in my pajamas for my keys, wallet, and laptop, only to find myself running late. Now, everything—including my outfit—gets set out the night before, saving me from morning chaos.
8. I Overlooked My Footwear
In my eagerness to impress during a client meeting, I chose a stylish pair of shoes from my pre-kid days. I forgot how uncomfortable they were! As a working mom, comfort should be your top priority when selecting footwear. After all, you never know when you might need to jump into action, whether it’s breaking up a sibling squabble or vaulting over a sandbox.
While I’m far from the picture of perfect organization, I’ve learned valuable lessons through these experiences. Each morning still feels like an obstacle course, but I’m no longer a rookie in this balancing act. Now, I just need to plan tomorrow’s lunch!
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Summary
Returning to work after an extended break can be challenging, filled with mistakes that many parents make. From micromanaging caregivers to neglecting self-care, understanding these common pitfalls can lead to a smoother transition. By letting go of control, prioritizing self-care, and planning ahead, you can create a more balanced life.