Parenting
I Bend the Rules
by Jamie Lee
Updated: Dec. 27, 2023
Originally Published: Sep. 12, 2023
Dear Sweet Child,
You, my lively and determined little one, are now 2 years old. You have a knack for bending the rules, breaking them, and even creating your own!
But here’s a little secret: before you came into my life, I had a vision of the type of parent I would be. And guess what? Most of those ideals have been reshaped or tossed aside.
I will breastfeed for a full year (I broke this rule).
You wanted to nurse constantly, and my body just couldn’t keep up. Pumping was a struggle, and honestly, I grew tired of walking around with my breast exposed. After just two weeks, we switched to formula, and everyone was a lot happier.
I will sleep when the baby sleeps (I bent this one).
Laundry, dirty dishes, and meals don’t wait for nap time. I often found myself tackling chores or scrolling through my phone. But oh, those rare moments when I would snuggle you on the couch, with our heartbeats syncing as we drifted off together were simply unforgettable.
I will not let my child watch TV (I bent this rule).
Some days just require a little Mickey Mouse time. Whether we’re at the doctor’s office or you’re just too tired from a day of play, sometimes a little screen time helps both of us recharge.
I will not be that anxious, first-time parent (I totally broke this one).
I once took you to the doctor over a crooked pinky toe because I was convinced it would affect your walking!
I won’t let my child’s schedule control my life (Broken).
I quickly learned how crucial naps and bedtimes are. A missed nap could lead to a meltdown of epic proportions.
My children will eat a balanced diet filled with veggies (I wish I could say I bent this, but I broke it).
Hot dogs have been a staple for the last few nights, and the only veggies you’ll touch are packed with sugar. But hey, you did lick a piece of broccoli once, so there’s hope!
I will make time for friends (I bent this).
Becoming a parent transformed my social life. A perfect evening now is spent in pajamas watching you giggle with your dad. Yet, after a long week of toddler talk, I cherish my time out with friends.
I will get my body back and work out daily (This is so broken).
My body has changed in wonderful and not-so-wonderful ways. I can’t recall the last time I hit the gym, and breakfast was a cookie today.
I won’t discuss poop (Broken before you even arrived).
Honestly, it’s just part of the gig.
I won’t be the mom who waits for “wine time” (I break this rule daily).
No need for details here!
I will not succumb to the yoga pant stereotype (I bent this one).
I tried to resist, but comfort won out. Sometimes, though, I take your nap time to freshen up and put on real clothes. It makes me feel human again.
My kids will learn to fall asleep on their own (Broken).
I underestimated the joy of rocking you to sleep, the sweet smell of your hair, and the warmth of your little body curled up next to mine.
So, my dear, I’ve bent and broken many of my own rules. As you grow, you’ll learn that some rules can be flexible, and that’s okay. But there’s one rule I will always uphold:
I will love you with every fiber of my being (forever and always, intact).
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In summary, parenting is a journey filled with bending and breaking rules, but the love remains unwavering and constant.