Like many women from earlier generations, my grandmothers held their weekly card games dear, with bridge gatherings serving as vital moments for connection. As a child, I never grasped the appeal of shuffling cards and strategizing over hands. Now, I realize that these bridge dates were less about the game itself and more about the chance to escape from daily responsibilities, sharing laughter and camaraderie with friends. My grandmothers taught me a valuable lesson that I’m just beginning to appreciate: Moms really need their own playdates. Here’s why:
1. Fewer Opportunities as Kids Grow
As children mature, the chances for moms to engage with one another tend to dwindle. I fondly recall the countless hours spent with fellow moms during ballet practices, soccer games, and school drop-offs. I didn’t recognize how much I cherished those moments until they began to fade. Nowadays, our kids are more self-sufficient, biking or driving to their activities, resulting in a significant decline in mom gatherings. Recently, I found myself reminiscing at a graduation party with the moms from our old Brownie troop and realized just how much I missed their company and humor. It’s definitely time to organize a moms-only Brownie reunion!
2. Nurturing Peer Relationships
Maintaining friendships throughout the parenting journey is essential. Life with kids can feel overwhelming, like an endless cycle of being on-call. However, just as it’s crucial to invest in your relationship with your partner, it’s equally important to foster bonds with friends. Once the toys are put away, the carpooling stops, and the homework is completed, you’ll find yourself with a lot of free time to fill.
3. Support Through Life’s Ups and Downs
My grandmother’s bridge group endured for over five decades, and she often reminds me about the myriad experiences they shared. They navigated life’s joys and challenges together: marriages, divorces, financial struggles, the arrival of children, and even empty nests. In my 20s, that list felt distant, but now, as a mom in my 40s, I see how relevant it is. Having close friends to celebrate victories and lean on during tough times is not just a luxury; it’s a necessity.
4. It’s Simply Fun!
Let’s not forget the sheer enjoyment of getting together! Playdates don’t have to resemble wild, chaotic nights out. It’s just wonderful to share space with friends, savor delicious food, sip some wine, laugh at inappropriate jokes, groove to ’80s hits, and engage in heartfelt conversations about the beautiful, maddening, and crazy moments of life.
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In summary, moms need their own time to recharge, connect, and have fun. Playdates with friends can rejuvenate our spirits and strengthen our bonds, making motherhood even more rewarding.